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Lame reply from new man ?

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gardencreations99 · 16/11/2020 15:45

long story short - met a bloke a few weeks ago, I took his number he never had mine, I messaged him, said something like 'Hi how's your day going, hope the rest of your day was good after we chatted' His reply 'hi, yeah day good, did X/Y/Z have a good day xx' and then left it at that. A very closed response. He was all over me when we last spoke he seemed really keen.
Am I reading into this too much ?

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Wondergirl100 · 16/11/2020 16:32

He isn't interested unless he contacts you and asks you out again. You made a move by asking a question - leave it to him now. Some people don't like chatting by text - but he will get back to you if he is actually keen.

Bluntness100 · 16/11/2020 16:33

@gardencreations99

I didn't give out my contact details to start with, he only had them after I made initial contact. He knew where I lived before we got chatting (long story!). I wanna know everything about him, but he never asks me stuff yet he says we are on the on same wave length in life
This makes no sense if you’re inviting him to your home. He’s a stranger, this is so dangerous.
Bluntness100 · 16/11/2020 16:35

And yes, op did you invite him round and have sex with him? Is that what he thinks he’s coming back for?

Whoooootaminute · 16/11/2020 16:35

He doesn't sound overly keen OP

I'd step back and see what happens.

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gardencreations99 · 16/11/2020 16:40

I have never had sex with him.
He was working in my street, we got chatting. That lead to him coming in for a cuppa and over time kissing. I felt safe to invite him in. He has told me lots about himself, asked v little of me. I told his tel number and made the first move to message him to which I got a v lame reply back, I thought he would be more keener to message because he sounded keen about fancying me when we spoke face to face. I never blow my own trumpet ever but I think he is punching above his weight and I'm 16 years younger than him. The age doesn't bother me.

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gardencreations99 · 16/11/2020 16:40

*I took his tel number

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Bluntness100 · 16/11/2020 16:48

Are you sure he is single?

30mph · 16/11/2020 16:48

I reckon he is already 'spoken' for. Yes, he probably is just after sex . He hasn't shown any interest in you as a person. Why have you fallen for him..?

Justmuddlingalong · 16/11/2020 16:49

Can you explain what happened and when? The timeline is very hazy.

TwentyViginti · 16/11/2020 16:50

Are you very lonely OP? With limited options for forming relationships?

MandalaYogaTapestry · 16/11/2020 16:51

To be honest your message was kind of lame too. "How is your day, hope your day was ok" not much to build on for him

QuentinQuarantino · 16/11/2020 16:52

He doesn't remotely interesting or remotely interestED in you.

How on earth can you have "fallen" for this personality vacuum of a probably married man?? 🤯

Cocomarine · 16/11/2020 16:52

You need to stop and think why you’ve decided that you’ve fallen for him.

HollowTalk · 16/11/2020 16:53

Hang on, is this the guy who works in your street who you fancy?

Bluntness100 · 16/11/2020 16:54

It is hard to undesgand, so he’s some workman who was working on your street and you got chatting and invited into your home for coffee when he was working on the street? Is that the only time he’s been in your home? And you kissed loads and he told you he fancied you?

Bluntness100 · 16/11/2020 16:55

@HollowTalk

Hang on, is this the guy who works in your street who you fancy?
Eh? Has there been another thread? She’s already said he’s some bloke who was working in her street. Totally confused now...
TokyoSushi · 16/11/2020 16:55

All seems a bit mysterious...

Dollydoo1 · 16/11/2020 16:56

Oh ffs, not this again.

rwalker · 16/11/2020 16:56

Hilarious you sound like a bunny boiler he's properly running for the hills.
You said he doesn't come across as keen . He isn't

CatherineSanderson · 16/11/2020 16:57

@HollowTalk

Hang on, is this the guy who works in your street who you fancy?
Oh that rings a bell.

I really think he's married/partnered, OP.

Bluntness100 · 16/11/2020 16:57

@Dollydoo1

Oh ffs, not this again.
Ok someone do tell...😂
Zoolally · 16/11/2020 16:57

I remember a thread where a lady really fancied a bloke who was working on her street and was asking opinions on whether she should ask him out or not

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gardencreations99 · 16/11/2020 16:57

Met several weeks ago as described in previous post
Not had sex but kissed lots
Hes been in my house 3 times, me to his once (he def lives alone)
Lots of flirting on both sides
Both said we fancy each other
Hes mentioned about being together long term ie saying things like if we lived together we could do x/y/z sort of thing and he has talked about going on hols
16 year age gap
I have younger kids, his are grown up

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gardencreations99 · 16/11/2020 16:58

I have never posted about this before

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HollowTalk · 16/11/2020 17:00

If he's not asking you any questions about yourself then he's not interested. He is just making assumptions about you. If he was interested, you would know it.

I'm sorry but you are definitely out of this man's league. Dump and move on.