How far is too far with your child’s mother?

[Marioodd]

Hi so I’m new here. I just wanted to get some perspective from mother’s.

I met a lovely guy around a year ago, he straight up told me he has a baby on the way. He was never with the child’s mother but they get on well as friends. I’ve never had any reason to think differently.

We’ve been together since we’ve met, he’s had his baby and everything seems settled to me. I’ve never met the baby or anything. Since we’ve been in lockdown I’ve noticed he has been messaging the baby’s mum quite a lot.

We’ll be sat on the sofa, he’s chatting to her. They always talk about the baby from what I can see but it’s constant. He’s said before they need a good relationship to co parent and I completely agree. I’ve never get insecure before this.

They’ve been out for meals together, they obviously spend a lot of time together. And he stayed at hers a lot when the baby was born. So I guess what I’m asking is as women with children. What is normal and what isn’t when co parenting?

He wants his cake and eat it too. Run for the hills and look at your boundaries moving on. You seriously thought it was a good idea to get involved with a man that's just had a baby with a previous g/f? You are worth so much more than that surely?

Well, not much you can do if in your love. Fortunately those words are magic, and neither you, nor the mother of his child, will suffer any heartbreak as long as you're in love.
Yes, text her a photo of you both in bed and see how it pans out.

I'd just end it and leave him to it. I couldn't be bothered wasting any more time on him.

So remember when you first met, and he was honest about having a baby on the way? Yea, that was the moment you should of gone "uh, hi, no thanks". Kinda obvious really, and now you are where your at because for whatever odd reason, it didn't ring massive bells of alarm for you, when it should of.

OP I actually got with my partner when his ex was pregnant ...

My partner never went out for meals with his ex, days out and he stayed over once when the baby was a couple of days old.
Lots of messaging for a while but mostly arguing as she knew about me and wasn’t happy.

He ended up getting contact via court so he didn’t have to spend time with her.

Although we are still together, if I went back and started again I would leave, the hassle was way to much.