Tinder match isn't really talking anymore would you bother?

[itsxmas]

Matched with a guy on tinder three weeks ago.
We chatted and got on great.
We were meant to meet up but then lockdown happened.
He would send me Snapchat's and texts now unless I message he doesn't.
This morning I sent him a snap and he just replied "ha"
Normally he would start a conversation
Would you even bother to continue trying to start a conversation?
I'm assuming he's chatting to others or just can't be bothered anymore.

No, leave it

I'd leave it. He doesn't seem overly bothered so you shouldn't either

I'd leave it. Couldn't be bothered with that.

I can't be bothered tbh.
He started off full of conversation and now it's clear he can't be arsed.
At least meet me before you sack me off

No leave it. Tinder is not the best platform either if you are after a 'proper' relationship.

I would leave it for now. It's unfortunate timing but you haven't even met so it's hard to maintain a conversation. Maybe you can get back in touch in December, assuming you're keen to meet him.

It is as you run out of things to talk about.
You having a good day?
Work busy ?
I can understand why it becomes mundane

Interesting that neither of you suggested a socially distanced walk outside? Why is that?

@DianaT1969 he lives a 30 min train ride away plus he works mon-fri till 7pm

[quote itsxmas]@DianaT1969 he lives a 30 min train ride away plus he works mon-fri till 7pm
[/quote]
Blimey, internet has changed things. I used to live 1 hr 40 minutes away from DH and we still saw each other every weekend and at least once during. A 30 minute train commute for a date would be nothing.

But anyway, he doesn't sound keen, so best let him go.

How can people not be keen when they haven't even had a date yet?
Is this what happens ?

People are flaky nowadays and it’s instant gratification or nothing sadly. Don’t waste your precious time on them anymore op!

Oh my don't go there, sould destroying.

My ex took 3 months to meet me, was a complete mindfuck and makes you feel awful to boot

@itsxmas leave it, it's his loss

@itsxmas yes, this is exactly what happens.

You / the guy are speaking to say 5 people. They get put into a pecking order of sorts (let's say in this case you were top of the pecking order). Then a new person comes along - chat starts to dwindle - this is because you aren't top anymore.

Its at this point you move on. Each and every time.

Yes, a man who can't be bothered with a 30 min train ride at the weekend is never going to set your world on fire 😂

OP I have done quite a bit of online dating and in my experience this is extremely common. I can’t tell you that the amount of men I have started a conversation with only to have it phase out after a few days, it away absolutely standard online dating behaviour. I have been on both ends of it and generally it’s because one of you has started talking to someone else who they they find more interesting/ has more potential. Just move on and start looking at others, it’s always good to be talking to a few different guys anyway do you don’t get too invested in one only for this to happen.

@Requinblanc I met my DP on tinder and we now live together so it can work.

In this case OP I'd leave it. He doesn't sound that bothered.

I think I got too invested.
Maybe it would have been different if we had of had a date.
Nevermind

@itsxmas he's not worth a date if he can't be bothered to travel 30mins

Would you ask him why he isn't chatty ?

@itsxmas no just leave it and move on x

Def not be asking him he's made it clear he can't be arsed. Fuck that not worth worrying about

Yeah true plus don't want to appear desperate do I.
His loss.

No, don't ask him. I'm a firm believer in letting them reveal themselves as the person they really are, not the one that you want them to be.