Tinder match isn't really talking anymore would you bother?

[itsxmas]

Matched with a guy on tinder three weeks ago.
We chatted and got on great.
We were meant to meet up but then lockdown happened.
He would send me Snapchat's and texts now unless I message he doesn't.
This morning I sent him a snap and he just replied "ha"
Normally he would start a conversation
Would you even bother to continue trying to start a conversation?
I'm assuming he's chatting to others or just can't be bothered anymore.

So do you think he is chatting with someone else now ?

@itsxmas

How can people not be keen when they haven't even had a date yet? Is this what happens ?

Yes! Get used to it. Sorry! You'll probably have dozens of conversations that Peter off to nothing before you meet.

@itsxmas

Would you ask him why he isn't chatty ?

No!!! He's lost interest. Never invest in an OLD match before you've had a real date.

@itsxmas

So do you think he is chatting with someone else now ?

Yes, probably several

He sounds like one of the typical men on Tinder - I wouldn't bother.

Nah ! no point flogging a dead horse

That's so disappointing.
You can tell I'm a old novice.
I've only been talking to him.
I should have had a few shouldn't I.
I guess it is boring when you haven't met up.

Sorry hun.
Tinder is shit sometimes. I've been on and off it for 5+ years. And you develop a hard skin about it eventually. It's so tricky sorting the wheat from the chuff with it

Sometimes it's better to concentrate on one person at a time. Otherwise you forget who's said what. It gets a bit confusing when you're talking to a Mike, a Matt and and a Mick. Or a Jack and a Jake.

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This is so common with online dating, most guys will be messaging quite a few girls at once so sometimes they just suddenly fall off the face of the earth, try not to take it personally it's kinda how online dating works. Don't put all your eggs in one basket so to speak as no one else is on there at the messaging stage. Don't lose faith though with the process xx

@jambeforeclottedcream guys on there will be talking to as many lady's as they can and move on when they find someone more appealing.

@sarahc336 well said sarah

I met my wife on tinder so it can work however when OLD its best to meet up in person ASAP. don't waste weeks / months talking to someone you might not get on with in real life. I had a 2 week limit to met then if nothing happened, move on.

[quote Bigjohn0]@jambeforeclottedcream guys on there will be talking to as many lady's as they can and move on when they find someone more appealing.[/quote]
Well aware of that. But it's not a thought I like to dwell on. Otherwise it just becomes a battle of pick me pick me. And the sort of competition I want to be a part of

I've been there more times than I care to think about and it's shit, but you're so much better walking away now with dignity. I've clung on too long in the past and ended up feeling like a complete idiot.

I thought he liked chatting to me.
I did feel a switch tho.
I won't be texting him again and doubt he will message me.

Don’t take it to heart too much OP. I can understand why you might feel disappointed if you thought he had potential but he never met you so it’s not something to take personally. Online dating can work out, I met my boyfriend on Tinder and he is lovely, it’s the second long term relationship I have had from online dating. So it’s definitely possible, but it takes quite a bit of work and filtering out the wrong ones. Don’t lose heart x

Women have multiple conversations too! It's just the way of it. Meet quickly if you can and TBH don't bother matching over lockdown.
Also tinder is no worse or better than any other site for this. It's human nature, not the app.

So do you think he just got bored ?
I don't know why I'm beating myself up over it

Met my Bf on tinder and been together 18 months. It can definitely work.

Everyone is chatting to more than one person. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Do savvy swiping. Meet up ASAP, within the constraints of the lockdown.

@itsxmas

So do you think he just got bored ? I don't know why I'm beating myself up over it

Basically yeah Stop taking it so personally. He didn't really know you. And vice versa.

My best guess it that he was chatting to a few people and feels he's clocked with one of the others more.

He will be back in a couple of weeks when he's bored and wants a shag probably

Tinder isn't a good idea unless you've the skin of a rhino.

Get on the app and get chatting to 5 or 6 news guys. You'll forget all about him. Like a PP said don't chat for weeks with anyone. Try to meet up as soon as possible; within a week.

So, so common and they often bugger off even after you've had a date. They are all chatting to several women at once and seem to always be looking for the next. I've had some dates that I've thought have gone well and I used to go on the dating app after to check if they were back on. 100% of the time they would be! My only advice is to have no expectations as most will let you down. I'm so sorry if that sounds really negative!

@Mermaidwaves no not negative at all.
Just truthful
No expectations = no hurt

Use this experience as a sharp learning curve in OLD. Men will be chatting to many, they will move on if they meet someone else to chat to that may be more of a match. Even when you start dating the same rule applies. Never get invested at all with any man on OLD even when you are on your 6th or 7th date. Now you need to make sure you speak and date multiple men, it stops you investing and makes it fun rather than a chore. Maybe wait until lockdown is over....not long now.