“DH” thinks he can do know wrong

[DigitalChristmas]

Feeling really deflated tonight. Defended myself to him after getting told I’m full of shit and talking shit when I said something he didn’t want to hear. Told him I would not tolerate getting spoken to like that. He insisted he’s not done anything wrong and I’m now getting the silent treatment.
Lockdown/restrictions are taking their toll as he’s wfh so I get minimal time away from him.
He occasionally will go to the other extreme and do the whole I’m just a complete arsehole or terrible person but we’ve not used that card in a while.

You know you need to get out of this relationship so that’s the first step. Start looking at rightmove for property that you might be able to rent. One step at a time

Yet again he was behaving like an asshole. Got him to apologise to me and to the one dc who witnessed his little tirade. Initially, he claimed he had nothing to apologise to the dc for but in the end he conceded. Dc actually called him on his apology and stated that he apologises but nothing changes. :-(
No idea what to do. Will need to play happy families with the in laws over Xmas. Oh joy!
I know people think you should either just leave or put up and shut up, but due to a complicated family setup, it’s simply not possible to leave immediately.

I've just been through this. His comments ranged from 'How do you read this shit?/Anyone who reads the sort of books you do isn't qualified to comment on literature' to 'You're a shit, vile person and you don't deserve love. I will destroy your life'. When I write the comments down they sound unbelievable, but those are just a few. It's so difficult to see the wood for the trees when you're in the thick of it but you must leave. My ex also regularly used to say I was nasty, vile, high-maintenance etc. despite no one else ever having said those things to me (friends or past boyfriends). These men want us to think we're worthless so no one else will want us. I hope you find a way out.

@Whydothedo so glad you’ve been able to leave.
Yes I do need to leave but I need to get my ducks in a row, I may even need to find a few first!

I was the devil reincarnated earlier for daring to suggest an activity for one of the dc over the holidays because he’s off work and they should all want to spend time with him! Wtf. Made out I was trying to pawn the particular dc off when what I had in mind was something that really like and I thought was in their best interest.

Usually I don’t “crash” and start to feel low until the dc are tucked in bed at night, but at the moment I’m just feeling really deflated by it all and I know the most challenging period is yet to come. At least now, he’s kept out of my hair during the working week.