I need your advice.
I am currently 7 months pregnant, this is my second pregnancy and I am really struggling with SPD, swollen feet, sore back and just general pregnancy.
I have a 4 year old who currently goes to nursery 3 afternoons a week and I am working full time currently from home. I am the main earner my partner has been our child main carer but since lock down i feel like i am being taken for a fool.
My partner wakes up about 10.30 on the days that our son goes to nursery but stays in bed until 1PM on the days that our son stays home. My working hours are 8.30 til 6 mon to fri which means I am struggling to do my job as well as look after our child.
My partner doesn't like me working downstairs when he is awake and doesnt like me working upstairs when he is asleep and gets moody if I haven't moved my work space as soon as he gets up.
He spends most of his time out side smoking so even when he is awake our son is upstairs with me whilst I am trying work (his fag breaks are on average an hour at a time)
I have tried to tell him that I am in pain and struggling with this pregnancy but he just ignores me or tells me that I keep going on. My feet are really swollen some nights so.much so that its painful I have asked if he would rub them to relieve the pain and I literally cannot reach them myself and he refuses.i have told him that I feel lonely and we spend no time together but nothing changes.
After a full days work I then have to cook tea for the three of us I also have to keep on top of the housework else it just doesn't get done (most days I am too tired soni leave it until I really have to do it) I feel like I have all of the responsibility of running the house (financially and physically) whilst being heavily pregnant, working full time and looking after our son.
I pay all if our house hold Bill's minus the broadband out of my wage we are entitled to UC and from that I ask for about 10% to help towards the house etc. He feels that me taking a small amount of the money is unfair to him and cannot see my side of the story!
I have a good job but my salary only just pays for the 3 of us to live in our home when all of our Bill's, food shopping and rent is paid I have very little left over. My dad gave me some money to buy myself a second hand car as the one I have is unreliable and too small but my partner keeps trying to get me to buy a van which is not what I want so he is saving up for a van himself but doesnt understand why I get annoyed that he can save money for a van but I have to think twice before buying some second hand maternity Jean's!
I feel like he blames me for not being able to work although I have told him so many times that I will give up work to provide childcare so that he can work but he says that he will not be on the same salary so there is no point, I have said that I could go part time so I can be there for school run and we would need to pay for childcare for our new baby for a year or so but he is not happy with that either.
Am I being stupid staying in this relationship? Am I over reacting? Is he just a man being a man?
Help?!