I've been in a relationship for 10 months with a man who in some ways is great. He cooks amazingly, ( massive bonus as I don't have the time or inclination!) he can be thoughtful and kind. Is good with my kids, which having come out of marriage to a bully and control freak who terrorised me and my kids, is wonderful. He can be helpful round the house when I ask. We have nice times out with friends etc!
However, he doesn't excite me! He dresses well and is nice looking but I don't fancy him! It sounds awful but I don't know if I ever did. I think in the beginning it was just lovely to be with someone 'normal', who didn't control me, who treated me well.
He's slowly moved himself in but doesn't help pay for bills and still pays rent to his landlady. I feel he's actually keeping his options open! Sex isn't very often and isn't great for me, altho he seems happy!
I just don't know if I'm expecting too much at my age (54)!!
I run my own small businesses, own my own mortgage free house and save money when I can. He's 51, rents a room in a house, has no savings, no pension and seems to spend all his money in the pub or online shopping!!
He's very happy as we are I think but I feel I'm settling! Am I too old to want to meet someone who excites me, makes my stomach churn. Someone I look forward to seeing at the end of the day. Am I stupid to give up what I have to try and find what may not exist?!!