Should I have friend requested this man?

[Candypopdrops8]

Ladies and any gents I need your help.

A little nervous right now.

A couple of months ago I had brief flirtatious moments with a stranger. These moments happened across a month and approximately 8 times we had brief chats. We were staring at eachother, smiling and he would say things to me that were fun but flirty. I got vibes he found me attractive. I enjoyed the attention. I received a text from my friend who said he had been saying nice things to her about me.

I hoped for a number but nothing happened. Felt abit disappointed when he left a few weeks ago.

With only his first name to go by I searched Facebook several times. Accepted he wasn't on there. I felt it might have been easier to speak out of his work setting. So I've been getting over my little crush but the last couple of days I have been regretting not being more foreward and offering him my number. I FB searched his first name locally again last night. I couldn't believe it. I found him! He's 15 years older than me which Is a little older than I hoped. But I decided to take a chance and I sent him a friend request last night at 9.45pm. he updated his photo a few days ago.
We have a friend in common. So if he did accept me and wondered how I found his name out I can say he was in the suggestions and I recognised him. But this morning I'm starting to doubt what I did. It's too late to go back.

I'm still living with my children's dad but it's complicated. We are basically just friends now and it's not going back to lovers. We do our own thing and there's no intimacy. I don't even truly know what I want it what I'm hoping to gain by this new man. But perhaps just a friendship! I think I just want to talk to him as he cheered me up massively and helped me get over a low patch due to lockdown misery!

The thing is if he doesn't accept me I've set myself up to feel paranoid.

Have I been foolish?

no life's too short

if doesn't accept atleast you tried & you’ll know where you stand

good luck!

Live fearlessly

Oh Jesus is this the builder over the road AGAIN?

Wait - you are basically just friends with your children’s dad? Does he see it that way?!

I was about to say does your DP know you’re just friends or are you basically looking to start an affair?

Does your current DP (children's dad) know that your relationship is over, are you separating or is this more that you are ready to and treating the water?

How messy. And flirty men of the other guys' age are rarely good news (or single) either.

You need to get out of your current complicated situation before starting a new one really.

Is the the builder across the road again? I suppose you just have to wait and see if he accepts and take it from there. It sounds a bit intense from your end though (if this is the builder story).

No you haven’t been foolish but you really need to sort your living situation out.

OP is this the builder again?

This isn't a crush, it's an obsession. That poor builder.

@yousawthewholeofthemoon

This isn't a crush, it's an obsession. That poor builder.

If it is the same OP again I genuinely think it's concerning too. If the builder was female and OP was male, the threads on here would have raised many more red flags over the months they've been posted. It is not this normal to be consumed by thoughts of someone who hasn't indicated genuine interest in romance aside from being friendly. I feel sorry for him too. OP this has gone beyond a crush now, you need to acknowledge this isn't healthy behaviour on your part and start taking ownership to stop it.

This sounds like the intro to a Mills &Boon.

You need to sort out what's going on with your husband. This is fantasy.

OP, have you told the other man you have kids and live with the father?

The poor Builder, You are obsessed!

This is undoubtedly the builder/tradesman. This is borderline psychotic

My immediate thought was “oh God not another post about the poor bloke across the road”

OP - sort out your current relationship first. I think you took the tiniest bit of attention and blew it totally out of proportion. If he wanted your number he’d have asked for it either to your face or via your mutual friend, men don’t dilly dally when they’re truly interested. You need to let it go and move on.

Lol. I am very intrigued . Who exactly is the builder ? 😂

The thing is if he doesn't accept me I've set myself up to feel paranoid

There is no reason to feel 'paranoid'. If he doesn't accept you it means he has no interest in you as a friend/girlfriend. It isn't 'paranoia' to learn that someone isn't interested in you - it's a fact of life that not everyone you meet will want to be anything more than your acquaintance.

Well its done now. Just wait. If he doesnt accept he doesnt accept thats ok. But reading other replies seems theres a bug back story here so i wont comment any more on that.

@Dontletitbeyou

Lol. I am very intrigued . Who exactly is the builder ? 😂

The Builder HERE

Another one here wondering if its the builder again 🤣

I read your other post OP and it's not healthy this obsession you have the guy will sence your desperate sorry to be harsh but it true and a massive turn off trust me if a mans interested they will let you know .