Should I have friend requested this man?

[Candypopdrops8]

Ladies and any gents I need your help.

A little nervous right now.

A couple of months ago I had brief flirtatious moments with a stranger. These moments happened across a month and approximately 8 times we had brief chats. We were staring at eachother, smiling and he would say things to me that were fun but flirty. I got vibes he found me attractive. I enjoyed the attention. I received a text from my friend who said he had been saying nice things to her about me.

I hoped for a number but nothing happened. Felt abit disappointed when he left a few weeks ago.

With only his first name to go by I searched Facebook several times. Accepted he wasn't on there. I felt it might have been easier to speak out of his work setting. So I've been getting over my little crush but the last couple of days I have been regretting not being more foreward and offering him my number. I FB searched his first name locally again last night. I couldn't believe it. I found him! He's 15 years older than me which Is a little older than I hoped. But I decided to take a chance and I sent him a friend request last night at 9.45pm. he updated his photo a few days ago.
We have a friend in common. So if he did accept me and wondered how I found his name out I can say he was in the suggestions and I recognised him. But this morning I'm starting to doubt what I did. It's too late to go back.

I'm still living with my children's dad but it's complicated. We are basically just friends now and it's not going back to lovers. We do our own thing and there's no intimacy. I don't even truly know what I want it what I'm hoping to gain by this new man. But perhaps just a friendship! I think I just want to talk to him as he cheered me up massively and helped me get over a low patch due to lockdown misery!

The thing is if he doesn't accept me I've set myself up to feel paranoid.

Have I been foolish?

@ZeroFuchsGiven
Thank you very much , now to read up

Rather than investing energy into pining over men you barely know, maybe you should look into your own relationship and it’s stasis. Are you over for good? Then you need to make arrangements and properly split. Is there hope? Then you need to put work into it. Either way you need to ensure he’s on the same page as you rather than unaware of the fact you’re looking at other men on fb because you’re ‘basically’ just friends now. Escaping into imagined relationships with other men is merely a distraction.

He's probably not interested because you live with the father of your child. He won't want to get involved. Sort out your home life first. Stop fantasising about this man, you know nothing about him. It's about as real as having a crush on George Clooney except I don't think he has a facebook account.

That poor bloke
You are a walking red flag

@leolion1

Oh Jesus is this the builder over the road AGAIN?

Sitting here quietly and just yelled "Oh no!" at this!

I went back to the psychic I trust tonight. She said a spirit is blocking him because he's too much like the men in my history. Apparently he's gone from being a sweet guy ready to open up but nervous. To abit of a player.

(Previous thread about this guy)

Honestly OP - in the same thread you say he was shouting to you from the rooftops. Now I know some people might feel that's flattering and others might get a restraining order but you are reading SO MUCH into this.

OP is this you?are you rev psychic lady?

Definitely been foolish to try even get into something when still living with your childrens father.

Yeah this is defo the builder stalker after reading that thread..
OP I think you need to move on. What will be will be, if he was interested then you would of known by now!

The other builder thread is ringing bells for me. Does anyone have a link?

Instead of cyber stalking strangers who chat to you, you should focus your energies on sorting out your life. Nobody in their right mind is going to be interested in someone who lives with their partner. Sort that out first.

@Morgan12

The other builder thread is ringing bells for me. Does anyone have a link?

Here

@Dontletitbeyou

Lol. I am very intrigued . Who exactly is the builder ? 😂

Bob.

He's hardly going to take you up the tradesman's while you're still living with your partner is he

I recall another of your threads where you said you were playing with fire but wanted to have fun. You described OM as a man painting your friend’s house. Your P has a heart of gold and is a great dad, but you are bored. You have no babysitters and aren’t interested in finding any, so you and P don’t ever have child-free time. He has told you that you’ll have more couple time as the children get older.

Your P believes you are still together. As posters said then, treat your P with the respect he deserves. Sort your relationship or officially separate before pursuing other men.

OP you need to leave your DP.

You were on here a while ago about this. Someone seems to have linked the previous thread.

If I remember correctly you had a very intense crush on a complete stranger and you were basically looking to start an affair.

At the time you were advised to either leave your husband or work on your marriage.

What has actually happened is that you have been stalking social media to find this person.

Considering he never made a move to provide his full name or ask for your number id say he isn't interested. Especially as he's now left the work he was doing.

My advice remains the same. Sort your marriage and stop obsessing over a stranger who has no interest in you.

Wait - what? “ I'm still living with my children's dad but it's complicated. We are basically just friends now and it's not going back to lovers. We do our own thing and there's no intimacy.”
So your current relationship isn’t good - but are you’ve decidedly not said you’re in an open relationship. So what exactly are you playing at?
Either fix your relationship or agree to open the relationship or agree to part. You have a child with your current partner- who you live with - and you’re asking advice about trying to initiate an affair with a stranger you’ve taken a fancy to. Is that right?

Wow. Just read the builder thread!

He's a stranger but knows your friend well enough to say nice things about you to her?
Does your friend know much about him?
Sounds like he could be interested but it sounds like you are in quite a complicated situation at the moment - agree with others you need to get out of your current situation before you move on to another relationship.

Lol, this poster has to be a troll.
Its just too much

@Hiccupiscal i started to think the same 😏

Am I the only one eagerly wanting to know if he actually accepted?

No @gingerbreadfox I was hoping for an update too

There's nowt on telly and I'm a bit bored...

Also, I hadn't read 'the builder' thread and I'm gobsmacked to see the OP is married, lives with her husband and is contemplating an affair

My DH wouldn't be impressed if I was lusting after the local builder!