Facebook dating

[famousforwrongreason]

Promise this isn't an ad and sorry if it's already been discussed, couldn't find a rbtea.
Has anyone joined the new FB dating thing?
I and most of my friends have. Seems to be slim pickings in my area and age group.
First guy I spoke to asked for my number almost immediately, I said no and he completely disappeared.
Had a few 'Hi' messages, a couple of pulling teeth type conversations. One guy who can do complete sentences and more my wavelength but I'm not attracted to his pics (a very strong 'creative' look).
Another one who looks right up my street in pics but sent me a message saying 'you look and sound lovely'
Fine in itself but I haven't written anything about myself, and there's no voice recording so I'm guessing he's just blanket sending copied messages to everyone 🙄

Can your other fb friends see that you have joined?

I didn't even know about this, but I have been inundated with sponsored dating ads on facebook this week, now I am wondering if there is a link somehow.

They are quite ridiculous ads though and I have had a good laugh. Looking for a cyclist? Join Date A Cyclist. Looking for a Hippie? Join Date a Hippie. I have been invited to join in with Christians, Bikers, Senior Dating (cheeky feckers) , spiritual. Lets see what today brings as that lot was just yesterday......

I have just checked. I don't see a heart anywhere, but I am not in the UK, so maybe its not available here.

Is thismylifenow.
No its private nobody on your friends list can see you've joined

@isthismylifenow

I have just checked. I don't see a heart anywhere, but I am not in the UK, so maybe its not available here.

Same for me and I am in the UK. Checked the App Store and it tells me it’s not available for me yet

Guess they must be rolling it out to a limited number of people to start with?

@TossaCointoyerWitcher I accessed it through Facebook itself. In the drop down menu at the top right (the three horizontal lines) there is a dating option amongst the other things like groups and marketplace...
@Inthesameboatatmo on what planet do these men live on (and says a lot about the man that wrote it...dodged a bullet there. Good that you can block them)

@Gilmoregoals.
I am far from an oil painting I think as well .
But the are neanderthals I think . That's all I can say morons of the highest order. Basically saying I must be a bitch on heat

@Inthesameboatatmo don't be so harsh on yourself!

But you're right. At least those men are an easy block. Nothing subtle about their ideas and motives.

There must be nice normal people out there who are in the same boat. It's whether I have the energy to try and find them!

@Gilmoregoals.
I know it's an absolute minefield at the moment. Have been chatting one guy who seems nice no dirty talk quite attractive, he a lawyer tho so feel abit out of depth . Only been retail management/area management but convo seems innocent enough .

Oh that sounds promising @inthesameboatatmo... don't downplay yourself. A lawyer is just someone with a job like the rest of us....
If you have similar interests then focus on that for now. Good luck with it!

@gilmoregoals.
Thank you for the encouragement, it's much needed.
Yes I will focus on some common interests.

Good luck in your search to

@Gilmoregoals

handsome man that liked me was just after casual sex and that's not really my bag; at least he was clear about his intentions I guess. I have since been liked by a man whose profile pictures consist entirely of him standing next to his car at petrol stations....

Haha I wonder how many women actually like those sorts of pics? I'm convinced that men's profile pics would often only impress other men

[quote Gilmoregoals]@TossaCointoyerWitcher I accessed it through Facebook itself. In the drop down menu at the top right (the three horizontal lines) there is a dating option amongst the other things like groups and marketplace...
@Inthesameboatatmo on what planet do these men live on (and says a lot about the man that wrote it...dodged a bullet there. Good that you can block them)[/quote]
Thanks 🙂

I had a quick go and TBH was disappointed. It doesn’t really seem to offer anything more than Tinder with the Facebook logo slapped on. Mutual intrests, friends, etc seem meaningless: as a bloke, it just does that same thing I got with Hinge where it just offered swipe after swipe of women who looked like footballers wives presumably because it thinks that, being male, that’s what I’d go for. I don’t because a) I’d stand no chance with them and b) actually, I’d like to choose someone normal?!

Hard pass, I’m afraid 😕

I'm trying to join, but yesterday I got a message saying there was a technical problem ("it's not you, it's us") and when I tried again today it said I had set up too many profiles! 🤣🤣

Doesn't sound like I'm missing much though.

@wewantthefinestwines.
I think it's ok I'm enjoying it so far .
Had a few weirdos ,creeps and pervs but that's the be expected and has made me howl with laughter.

But I'm speaking to quite a few guys actually .
Definitely keep persevering with it

@WeWantTheFinestWines I am fairly certain you have dodged a bullet!

I haven't seen anyone remotely compatible in terms of lifestyle, job, education etc.

@TossaCointoyerWitcher that's interesting what you are seeing from a male point of view, I often wonder who I am sitting alongside in the swipes...

I have found Hinge a bit better for a few options in terms of compatibility but ultimately have not had any joy there yet either...keep telling myself it's early days...

@Inthesameboatatmo how's it going with your match?

Oops crossed posted @inthesameboatatmo
That sounds really positive! So pleased one of us is having some luck

@gilmoregoals.
It seems to be going ok in all honesty weve swapped numbers now so are on WhatsApp but it's still no dirty or pervy talk hes seems very respectful, i dont know if that could be a culture thing though hes Indian we have quite a bit in common and and are planning to meet up fairly soon for a walk or something. Distanced of course

@gilmoregoals.
Maybe just go for who you would t normally think is attractive.

I dont mean settle for a denisovian cave man obviously but maybe there might be a guy out there who is better looking in real life iyswim.
Goodluck and let us know

Had any luck yet @famousefor wrongreason.

@Inthesameboatatmo

Had any luck yet *@famousefor* wrongreason.

Nope! Chatting to a few guys but none who excite me. One who seems to be trying to educate me (he's diagnosed his ex wife as a narcissist and has been reading about psychology over the summer...) A few who are clearly following the script from 'online dating for dummies'. One who is great for chatting to but not sure he's physically my type, might be worth a meet. I'm really loving the mutual friends feature, three who id have normally clicked on are friends with good friends of mine, I've given them all a huge swerve after getting the background I'm astonished by the amount of men who say they're looking for something 'casual' but all their dating profile pics are of their children

I even updated my fbook and it's still not available for me. Not that I'm on any dating sites, but I have a case fomo now 😊. Who knows.... Mr Right could be a mutual friend. Which seems so much easier....

But the bullet and joined 🙈. Hopefully None of lucky friends and family can see it . How are you ladies finding it ?

@famousforwrongreason.
Oh dear, I seem to be the only one having any luck lol.
Yes at least you can dodge the ones you know which has been a godsend for me .
But dont give up . Have a laugh with it .
I had 33 year old message me last night . I'm mid 40s btw . He was fuckin gorgeous, told me I looked like a cute sexy handful.
Massive confidence boost .
Have fun with it and dont take it to seriously.
And yes I'm still speaking to the lawyer i met on there daily. 😆

@lovellost.
Well done.

Enjoy .
Take it all with a pinch if salt, you will be fine ,just enjoy the messages you get even if they are only after a shag they must have found you attractive in the first place to like the profile. So let it massage your ego until you find someone you click with.
Good luck and let's keep this thread going with updates ladies

Never heard of it might give it a go