Heartbreak hotel

[LostStars39]

I just wanted to start a thread as a bit of a support for people who have very recently got out of a relationship. Really sorry if someone has already done a similar thread but I’m struggling so much.

Basically my Ex of 5 years broke up with me yesterday, he’d been distant for a while and he kept saying he felt depressed and no motivation and it wasn’t me. I finally had it out with him last night and he said he didn’t love me anymore. I’m absolutely heartbroken and devastated and just can’t see a way of ever getting through this :( anyone else need to vent?

@ponia yes! I can completely relate. I’m trying to think of his faults and the things that annoyed me but I just end up going back to all our happy times and memories that I’m going to miss and just end up missing him even more. I just don’t understand how he can completely switch off his emotions and just be over me. I miss him so much!

How is everyone doing? I felt a bit better last week but the last couple of days I haven’t stopped crying and have barely been able to get out of bed. I just want him back to badly and still can’t get my head around it all

Hey, thought I'd say hi and add I'm in the same boat. Finished things on Friday after my sulky ex decided he just wasnt going to turn up.. Long story but I flipped and am heartbroken right now. Trying to think of the negatives but am struggling a lot.
Hugs to you all

@heom45 hi...saw you on the other thread I was on too!

How are you doing? Mine went a few weeks ago when I called him out too and I lost it, after months of frustration.

Not sure hi, yes I saw you too!
Well yesterday I muted and archived his chats to stop me constantly checking..it did help. Woke this morning, casually went on to reply to a friend and he's messaged me at 2am..v odd as would be working today.. Its an album we both like.. Well one I introduced him to and he loves.. I'm v confused..
How are you doing today?

I'm so so...it's been weeks now though and I'm still cut up about it. I just want to talk to him.

Not sure, thats hard.. Hugs

Heartbroken here too. Dumped yesterday. I've never been like this about a break up. It completely floored me and I'm feeling desperate. I want him back. He's been a dick. A really big dick. He doesn't even deserve me and I know it. I've not eaten or slept since he ended things yesterday afternoon. I've barely spoken. I feel sick in my stomach.

I feel like my world is ending. I'm trying to hold myself together for DD. I'm being so fucking melodramatic and I hate myself for it but I honestly thought we were soul mates.

I think I've lost it. I'm googling ways to get him back etc and considering spending $100 on a fucking scammy ebook of magic tricks to win your man back. I don't want to accept this is it though. I just don't. I had a future planned. I feel so stupid but I love him. I've turned into the kind of person I hate and I'm so angry about that.

He's been texting me today to check up on me and I want to scream at him. I don't know whether to ignore his texts or tell him how hurt I am (I did tell him last night, very undignified). I just want him to change his mind. Google tells me the best thing to do is ignore him for 30 days at least, so he has a chance to miss me. I'm just scared he will forget about me.

[quote LostStars39]@ponia yes! I can completely relate. I’m trying to think of his faults and the things that annoyed me but I just end up going back to all our happy times and memories that I’m going to miss and just end up missing him even more. I just don’t understand how he can completely switch off his emotions and just be over me. I miss him so much![/quote]
Same here. He's done the same too. Switched off. He was declaring his love a few days before he dumped me the fucking bastard.

Change his name on your phone to Sir Flappy-Tongued Bumface.

(It's what Charlie Brooker once called Jamie Oliver and it's impossible to see it next to your ex's face without laughing.)

Change his name on your phone to Sir Flappy-Tongued Bumface.

First time I've smiled.

Sorry for my rant earlier. I hope everyone is doing ok. I am switching between "all men are bastards" and "omg my life is over and I will never get over this, please come back to me."

@WednesdayChilds

Change his name on your phone to Sir Flappy-Tongued Bumface.

First time I've smiled.

Sorry for my rant earlier. I hope everyone is doing ok. I am switching between "all men are bastards" and "omg my life is over and I will never get over this, please come back to me."

Rant away. It is a truly shitty place to be. Pretty much all of us have been there. We've all got through it and you will too. What was it Elsa said, it's funny how some distance makes everything seem small? You need time to get some distance.

Oh, and Madea: let them go.