Why did my ex do this?

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We broke up 7 weeks ago,he would treat me like rubbish then turn it around on me and make me believe it was me.
We had a HUGE bust up and I don't think there's any coming back.
I deleted him off fb etc as I didn't want to see anything about him.
Two weeks ago I got a new phone and had to log in to a old FB.
He was still on that one,I decided to keep him on to see if he would delete (I know I sound stupid but I still love him and I do miss him)
Anyway he's on social media pretty much all day every day.
I was posting daily,if I was out with friends or status updates (just once a day)
He kept me on for two weeks.
Till last night I clicked and he had removed me.
I know I sound ridiculous asking this but why did it take him two weeks?
I wasn't posting depressing quotes,I wasn't slagging him off on there so why delete ?
I was posting positive things and nothing regarding break up.
I don't understand why it took him two weeks (when he was active on there constantly )

Oh dear. That level of Kremlinology is a bad sign for you.

For a while he wasn't bothered by seeing you pop up on his feed then he decided it would be best to take you off. That's quite normal behaviour.

Step away. Far away. Your head is in a bonkers place.

Maybe he just hadn't noticed you. You don't get notifications of every post by every FB contact 🤷‍♀️ Or he had and thought you were playing games or wanting his attention.

Anyway, it's for the best isn't it? He treated you like crap and you got out. It would be stupid to jump out of a window when your house is on fire then go back in through the door.

I know you don't get notifications but you can see status updates when you scroll through news feed.
I wasn't trying to get his attention.
I was just behaving normal.
I just thought it was strange it took him two weeks that's all.

Because you're broken up. He realised it's really over so unfriended you. Sounds normal but a shame you didn't get there first, maybe!? Don't dwell on it.

I deleted him off Facebook/Snapchat a month ago
He might be being petty
God I know I sound pathetic and like a stupid teenager.
He is so under my skin.

His life isn't all about you. He deleted because he felt like it, at the time he noticed.

The real question is why is this bothering you so much. He treated you badly, you've put him out of your life, and you're torturing yourself over a click he made. This is nothing about him, and all about you.

I know it's totally me.
I know I'm obsessing over something stupid.
I just thought it was strange for him to wait a fortnight then delete me.

Sounds like you're looking for meaning. Do you hope that he'll realise you're the love of his life and beg for another chance?

He's unfriended you. Why? Because he didn't want you on his FB.

I know it's painful but you need to work on moving on.

After I deleted him a month ago I regretted it.
I thought there's no way now for him to see I'm ok and fine and moving on.
I know it's stupid but it made me feel good him seeing me enjoying myself and not the pathetic crying mess he made me.

The best way to show you don’t care and that you’ve moved on is to just delete him and actually move on for real, not pretend to.

I know,it just hurts.
He has 500 people on his fb,3/4 he doesn't even know in real life.
Yet he can just erase me so easy.
I will get over him,it just takes me a while

That all sounds pretty normal to me.
You don’t know how he’s feeling, he might have been checking your profile and decided he needed to unfriend you so he can move on.
It really doesn’t matter why and it’s not unusual to be at this stage of overthinking, reflecting and wondering after a break up
Take it day by day, eventually he’ll barely cross your mind

I guess it's not even 2 months yet.
I'm not upset anymore (I don't think)
I'm at my obsessing phase.
I miss him and him still on my fb felt like a connection somehow.
He never posts on there just lurks.

Would you ask why he felt the need to delete ?
Or leave it

A year ago we went through the same and got back together
I guess I always thought it was a blip

I know it hurts, I know it's hard, but you NEED to put him behind you. You were NIT good together. You should NOT get back together.

Genuinely move on - more difficult in the current situation, but you can do it.

Please don’t ask him why he did it. You will only end up regretting giving him the satisfaction of knowing you care enough to notice.

Why would you do that if you deleted him in the first place?

He wants to see if you will notice and beg for him back or make contact so he can tell people that's what your doing

Would you ask why he felt the need to delete ?

Absolutely not. He deleted it because he wanted to, because you are not in a relationship any more. You don't need to know any more than that nor would it help you and he doesn't owe you an explanation. You need to work on you, not him. Get over him, it's finished.

I just thought it was strange for him to wait a fortnight then delete me

Yes, and he's probably done another 100 things you would think were strange since you broke up. It's nothing special about you, and it's none of your business.

I need to stop the over analysing don't I.
I deleted him a month ago so why am I even bothered that now he has done the same.

You need to go drink a lot of wine with friends who will take the piss out of you for being like a teenager. A tragedy of lockdown that you can't

I once had someone who dumped me after treating me like dirt only to express outrage when I blocked him on social media shortly after...social media seems to do strange things to people.

If it is over there is no point in the other person being able to see why you are up to everyday. Move on and live your life...

I think if it wasn't for this lockdown I would be out with friends.
Don't you find when your home on your own your brain ticks over too much?

He might not have have realised you were back on for 2 weeks - not all posts come up in the news feed. An old FB profile that hadn't posted in a while is unlikely to be high relevancy in FB's algorithm for him, especially when he has 500-odd friends.