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Why did my ex do this?

31 replies

notthepoint · 06/11/2020 09:40

We broke up 7 weeks ago,he would treat me like rubbish then turn it around on me and make me believe it was me.
We had a HUGE bust up and I don't think there's any coming back.
I deleted him off fb etc as I didn't want to see anything about him.
Two weeks ago I got a new phone and had to log in to a old FB.
He was still on that one,I decided to keep him on to see if he would delete (I know I sound stupid but I still love him and I do miss him)
Anyway he's on social media pretty much all day every day.
I was posting daily,if I was out with friends or status updates (just once a day)
He kept me on for two weeks.
Till last night I clicked and he had removed me.
I know I sound ridiculous asking this but why did it take him two weeks?
I wasn't posting depressing quotes,I wasn't slagging him off on there so why delete ?
I was posting positive things and nothing regarding break up.
I don't understand why it took him two weeks (when he was active on there constantly )

OP posts:
category12 · 06/11/2020 18:30

So your peacocking singledom posts may have been completely wasted on him.

AtrociousCircumstance · 06/11/2020 18:33

OP, it hurts, like hell, but you have to embrace the hurt. Get to know it and give it your full attention. Give yourself your full attention, be compassionate to yourself. The hurt will pass and then you will see things clearly and be free, and wonder why you ever tormented yourself over him.

Get to it Flowers

notthepoint · 06/11/2020 20:21

@category12 well I had likes on my pics /status from lots of other people so no reason he wouldn't have seen them in two weeks I don't think

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category12 · 06/11/2020 20:37

Because the FB algorithm doesn't necessarily show up everyone in your feed - especially if you have 500 friends. I don't really know how to say it differently. You don't see everything everyone on your friends list is posting - the algorithm filters it according to what it thinks is most relevant. Haven't you ever looked at a FB friend's profile and thought, heck, I never saw them post that?

notthepoint · 06/11/2020 20:50

@category12 I didn't know that.
I've never really paid any attention till now.
I just assumed after two weeks,the law of averages would assume be would see something but who knows then.

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litterbird · 07/11/2020 12:08

He deleted you as he is moving on with his life and may have met someone else or just out having some fun and doesn't want to be reminded of you on FB. No one knows but himself. I deleted my ex after about a month as It was because he wasn't a part of my life and had no right to see what I was doing anymore. Simple as that. There was no hidden meaning or anything just a natural progression to the end of a relationship.

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