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Boyfriend claims I'm his girlfriend now - no real talk of it?

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driventodistractionk · 06/11/2020 03:12

(25F) (34M). So I’ve been seeing this guy for around 6/7 months. All things have been going well, we get a long really well, I know his friends etc. All signs of a serious relationship. For a few months I was unsure of what we were as he never asked me to be his girlfriend. We had the talk a few times. He had a few concerns regarding some things or lack of in common. He said he wanted to only make a decision after his exams (they have just finished). We haven’t talked about until briefly tonight. Okay, I was under that impression; we aren’t official yet. Tonight I mentioned that I wasn’t sure about us continuing to have sex without a ‘label’ as it seems casual. He said we don’t have to have sex (he’s quite traditional) and then he said ‘what? You are my girlfriend’ ‘I thought we’ve known that since we’ve been dating’. Now I’m confused. I said ‘well if you introduced me to a friend of yours, do you say I’m your girlfriend?’ And he said yes. While months ago when I met his friends, he didn’t say that but I’m confused. Advice?

TL;DR I thought this guy and I wasn’t official. We have been dating for over 6 months. Then claimed I am his girlfriend.

OP posts:
LauraBassi · 06/11/2020 19:15

I bet you had sex after he said it right?

This guy won’t marry you. Your hanging on to him because he’s a doctor. He knows that too.

DianaT1969 · 06/11/2020 19:18

OP, are you in the US? You mentioned 'state'.
The advice stands regardless. I notice you aren't answering people on questions you don't like. I think you'll hang on and keep posting this same question for years. What a waste.

DianaT1969 · 07/11/2020 16:28

I suspect the OP isn't coming back, but will start an identical thread next week.
You can take a horse to water...

DPotter · 07/11/2020 17:38

I agree DianaT
It's so sad - you can just see how this is going to work out for her

LolaSmiles · 07/11/2020 17:40

I hope that the OP realises her worth sooner rather than later and can find a man who deserves her.

Dery · 08/11/2020 21:52

“Practical advice from me would be counselling for self esteem and to see this relationship for what it is . Good luck op - you deserve much better .”

This.

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