Disagreements over TV

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This is going to sound like an odd one but I wanted to check if I'm actually being unreasonable or not!

Boyfriend of 2 years will refuse to watch a film unless it's rated 7/10 or higher, or a TV series unless it's rated 8/10 or higher.

We will sit down to choose something but end up spending an hour looking as he checks the rating for every. Single. Thing.

Then when he can't find anything that is rated high enough he will give me the remote to have a look.

Tonight (for the first time) I refused to look as I am so tired of having to check the rating every time I find something remotely good. He got cross and had a slight go at me for the fact that I wasn't willing to look for a film.

I know this all sounds ridiculous, but he's like this with a few other things too. It has to be his 'rules' for certain things yet I'm the unreasonable one when I don't play along

Am I losing the plot or is this as frustrating as I feel it is?!

I’d get rid this sounds silly but will get worse and cover more things, he’ll start thinking clothes not good enough on you, meals he’s not with. As for the tv get another one and watch what you want. Why should you miss out due to his silly ranking system.

Sorry meant to say not happy with.

No you are not been unreasonable!! That sounds so irritating! What happens if you want to watch something that isn't rated like he wants it to be?

➡️🗑 for him, what other rules does he have??

Where is he checking these ratings? There's not one definitive site for ratings it's fairly subjective. Does he understand this? It sounds way too much like what he says goes. What other things is he like this with?

Life is too short!!

@Mikeymoo12 If it's something I want to watch and it's not rated high enough then he won't watch it, I have to when he's not here

How ridiculous 🙄

Can he not do anything without majority approval?

I personally struggle to find anything that both my DH enjoy to watch ... but after 30+ years of marriage we just agree to differ and will do something else in a different room if one of us wants to watch the tv/film. I loathe that time after dinner when we try and agree to what to watch, made much harder now of course when everyone is stuck at home.

There's loads of films and series with lower ratings that are really good.
Is he a sheep? Can't decide what he likes so has to go with others opinions?

So if you chose something he doesn't think is good enough does he leave or just sulk until he gets his own way?
That behaviour will only get worse. Put him in the bin.

Where is he getting his ratings from? I have a friend who rates tv shows and films for a national newspaper and quite frankly his criteria is bizzare. I take no notice of reviews or ratings anymore and just watch what takes my fancy. Honestly he sounds like hard work.

Would drive me mad. He should be able to compromise and watch things you might want to watch as well

He gets his ratings from IMDB.

Because we couldn't find anything with a high enough rating I've just put regular TV on which he's not impressed with, so is now reading a book and seems like he's in a bit of a huff

Rate him a 6 and Ltb.

If you get/ have Netflix, he can spend some free time saving shows and films that he likes the look of and check the ratings then. It'll all be ready for you come the evening and you can pick out of that list. I'd be in bed by the time he'd finished all of that!

He's a loser

@Sunnydaysstillhere

Rate him a 6 and Ltb.

That rating is too generous!

We do this. We use rottentomatoes. Why waste your time watching something that will ultimately turn out to be crap.

@DrMorbius

We do this. We use rottentomatoes. Why waste your time watching something that will ultimately turn out to be crap.

Because a lot of the time they aren't crap and just because some dim witted idiot who doesn't have the capacity to expand their mind to different topics and interests clicks that it's not a 6 or above. Jesus. Open your mind

@Horehound you do know what a critical review is, do you?
Then add one critical review to many critical reviews and bingo, you have what is traditionally known as "wisdom of the masses".

Nah. I agree with Horehound

There are some really cool things that have poor reviews, not because they are shit but because they are a bit different.

There’s loads of albums /movies/books that were apanned at the time and or a flop at the box office that have become recognised years or even decades later.

Review scores are a quick and unimaginative filter, but you wil miss a lot of good stuff if you slavishly Hunt out only high scoring populist things.

And there are some classic cheesy movies out there too

collider.com/galleries/bad-movies-that-are-actually-great/

editorial.rottentomatoes.com/article/56-rotten-movies-we-actually-love/

^ even rotten tomatoes Rates their rotten movies!

Oh my...I used to be like this. If anything had lower than a 6 on IMDb I wouldn’t watch it. Then one day I ran out of things to watch and forced myself to watch something rated at a 5 and surprisingly enjoyed it. So now I won’t watch anything less than a 5 😂

Either get rid of the guy or y’all have to watch different things at different times which sounds lonely to me. But it works for many, I’d just prefer that if I’m living with someone to watch many movies together rather than apart.

If this is something you want to work past, I would suggest making potential viewing short-lists in advance.

What happens if one site gives one rating and another a lower rating?

I've seen stuff on netflix that's highly rated and its turned out to rubbish, I usually switch it off not too far in.

I go off friend's recommendations these days.