How do you leave a relationship that's...

[Sheop14]

95% fabulous?
Imagine meeting someone and wanting children.. They do too.. You end up discussing.. But never getting to the point of doing it because every excuse under the sun is thrown in..
BUT until that conversation is broached again life is rosey..cant fault and can't imagine being with anyone else...
Mine is a moving issue not children but it's as much a bigger deal.
Then as I write this I see that I'm wasting my time and for my own good it's for the best.. But just feel such a loss as walking away and maybe never finding anyone quite like him😔

You said this:

he's lived with someone (bought the house he's in) and their child, she left him.

I read that as both their child - maybe you meant it was her child?

Do you know why she left him?

Did they own the house together - or was it his alone?

Don't let him fob you off any longer, plan a date to move in together, if he doesn't then you know that he doesn't want to, 4.5 years is long enough.

EarthSight Thu 29-Oct-20 07:59:34
jessstan1

I don't think being an hour apart is very much. A lot of people spend commute to work an hour each way, sometimes longer especially if trains are playing up.

Yes an it gets tiring and miserable. Did it for years.
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So did I and am glad not to do it now but the op and boyfriend would not be commuting to work every day, they'd be visiting each other, maybe at the weekend, probably driving, and that isn't the same thing at all as standing on a station platform in all weathers hoping there are not leaves on the line.

Sss sorry yes her child not his.. As far as I'm aware!