Cheating ex suicide

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I just found out my ex has taken his own life. Am complete shocked never thought he would be capable as he always been a look out for number 1 type.

Our children are grown up now but are obviously devastated but apart from shock I don’t feel sad at all and it’s hard to make myself sound compassionate about him but I don’t want to hurt my DC feelings.

Sorry OP, what a tough situation. I too would feel angry with him for bringing such grief and guilt upon the DC - a last selfish act to top off a life of selfishness.

When my Dad died I felt not very much. I hadn't spoke to him for quite a few years. My parents were divorced due to his general bastard ways and I just couldn't be bothered with the waste of space anymore so I cut him off. I often wondered if I would regret this when he died and feel guilt, but nope. You reap what you sow in life and he didn't deserve my pity/guilt. Why would you grieve someone whose been horrible to you and your family? No loss to the world really.

All you can do is be there for your DC. Your DD was clearly hurt and grieving so obviously I wouldn't mention her hurtful comment but I wouldn't allow those comments to continue in the future though and would gently correct her if she keeps speaking like that.