Ok so me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year now. He recently got like a ‘promotion’ at work, and things in my opinion have got a little strange and different.
He has a new line manager (we’ll call her Nina) who in the past he has expressed that he thinks she is good looking and a really nice person. She is a “I get on so much better with boys” sort of woman, when I used to work with them, all the girls including myself weren’t keen on her, but all the boys loved her.
Anyway, since he got this ‘promotion’ they have had to work a lot closer together, I think he spends most of his days at work with her in the office. They text A LOT outside of work, and he was also becoming a little distant from me, so I got this gut feeling something was up. Then, I did something really bad and looked through his phone. I know this is so awful to do, but I just hear about people cheating all the time, I needed to know. The texts to me seemed a little strange. She said things like, I’ll buy you a pint, sent him a picture of cookies she’d made, said he was her favourite worker and also said, at least we’re together.
Nina is 31 years old, and a manager talking to to a 21 year old, these texts seem a little unprofessional to me i don’t know. Anyway, I confronted him about it, I didn’t tell him I went on his phone I just said I saw a weird message from her come up, and now he is so funny about me even glancing at his phone, and I just know it’s her texting him:( I’m so paranoid, but I don’t want to tell him to stop texting her because I don’t want to seem like a psycho girlfriend, plus it’s his boss so he does need to talk to her. The fact is, he is with her everyday, sees her more than he sees me, and that’s really getting me down.
(Another fact about Nina is that, when I worked with them, she was having a relationship with a then 24 year old, a bit young for a 30 year old in my opinion? Maybe she likes younger boys!)
What should I do? Any advice is welcome.