Kiss of death

[KissofDeathCovidBreath]

The more I think about this the more annoyed I am getting. Just going to spill it and get it off my chest.

My BF of 4 years and I don't live together, although we are looking at moving in together in 2 years, and relocating 250 miles at the same time.

Because of covid we have bubbled up and he had been staying at mine quite a lot. I have 3 children, he has none.

Over the weekend he started to feel unwell, did the symptom checker on the app and it said unlikely to be covid. I kept him dosed up on cold and flu tablets and generally looked after him.

Yesterday he gets a phone call from his boss saying one of his colleagues has a positive covid test and so he needs to have a test. So off he goes for his test. He speaks to the colleague in question and his symptoms are identical.

So the part that had annoyed me is that he keeps kissing me. Even after telling me that he had identical symptoms to the covid positive colleauge. I have asked him several times not to but he thinks it is some kind of joke.

I have pulled him up and told him I am really really annoyed with him and he said he is sure he doesn't have corona and I am over reacting.

My point is it doesn't matter if he has corona or flu or chicken pox or Ebola. The point is that he is ill, and I don't want to be ill, covid or not! He can just laze around being waited on but I have 3 children to look after. The world doesn't stop just because mum gets ill.

So if he gets a negative test like he is convinced he will, he will swan off to work and I will be left feeling ill managing 3 children and working from home.

Plus I assume that if he gets a negative test and I then get symptoms, me and the children will have to carry on isolating until I get a negative test?

Anyway he thinks I am over reacting but I think he is absolutely stupid, selfish and inconsiderate.

I have sent him off to isolate at home. Would you be furious too?

He has been moaning how dreadful he feels all weekend, why would you want to share that to someone you supposedly love! I just don't get where he is coming from at all.

I’m furious for you OP - what a horrible man!

He said "shut up"?

Well, the only answer is goodbye forever.

He told you to shut up after passing on Covid to you?
I normally feel that mumsnetters have no business telling others to end their relationships, but this just takes the biscuit.

Urgh. I would not be continuing a relationship with such an arrogant inconsiderate prat.

Hope you feel better soon op, sorry this is happening

He text 'shut up'?

You text 'fuck off' and block him. He is a twat.

What's more, his attitude suggests he wasn't careful about picking it up either. So his carelessness and stupidity leaves you having to self isolate from your kids, and worrying about whether they have got it.

What a pillock.

He has said that because he knows he is at fault. And while he sods off back to his own house to only need to look after himself, you now are ill and having to manage the kids aswell. I'd be dumping him now, wouldn't care less if he got worse. And any takeaways etc you get through the inconvenience of this I'd be asking him for the money!!

Yeah, he's a big fat NO

I totally get his point that I probably would have caught it anyway but any decent person would take precautions as much as they could.

I'm not even reading his latest message, I haven't the energy to argue.

It really was the kiss of death to the relationship. Not giving me covid, his whole attitude toward me.

@KissofDeathCovidBreath

I totally get his point that I probably would have caught it anyway but any decent person would take precautions as much as they could.

I'm not even reading his latest message, I haven't the energy to argue.

It really was the kiss of death to the relationship. Not giving me covid, his whole attitude toward me.

He is fucking vile. "Shut up?!"

"Don't worry I won't be talking to you again, our relationship is over. All the best, no need for further contact."

Well worded @newnameforthis123

Gosh that’s awful behaviour. He wouldn’t have any place in my life from now on.

What vile behaviour on his part. I would dump him and block him, if it were me.

Get well soon, OP, hope you and the children are managing, and not feeling too crappy. You sound lovely.
This bloke is definitely one to lose as quickly as possible. There is no respect, nor consideration there.
Try social distancing....ensure you are at least 2 miles away from him at at all times!

How horrible for you, OP - a genuine clusterfuck. I hope you feel better asap. Do you have anyone to help with deliveries etc?

Wow, of all the things to infect someone with! I’d take clymidia any day over Covid! What a bastard! 😳🤬

Thanks everyone, I haven't even bothered to reply. I was starting to realise I don't actually like him anyway before this so it won't be any hardship to face facts.

Kids still seem fine so far and I don't actually feel too bad today just tired and achy but managing to work from home still.

He's vile.
So arrogant and full of it. First insisting he didn't have it then claiming you would have gotten it anyway.

He's the reason you have it.
He obviously got it because of his carelessness. Too good to wash his hands type.

Glad you're getting rid of this bastard.
Hope you get well soon.

I honestly can’t believe some men. How the fuck they are able to justify literally playing hard and fast with people’s health (and lives) and livelihoods like this....
So self-indulgent and unable to recognize women as separate human beings, instead of a series of functions designed to meet their needs.

How are you feeling today , and how are your dcs ?

My sis in law is a nurse, caught covid but kept herself away from her partner, kids and her parents which live with them partner has a long term condition which likely would have finished him off if he caught it. Noone else in the house had a positive result. It is possible to keep it to yourself if you are careful.
I would dump his arse so quickly after his behaviour.
Hope you feel better soon

Just tired mostly today and a lingering sore throat.

Kids showing no symptoms since younger DS was sick the one time. Just taking all the precast we can.

Glad it's so far so good with your dcs , sorry to hear you are still poorly. Dick head aside, have you got an adult keeping an eye on you ? ( even if just phonecalls etc )

My sisters and best friends are checking in daily. My friend even send me some chocolate to make sure my sense of taste was still working

I am lucky to have great people in my life.

I'm glad

Op Hope you are ok
His behaviour is a beyond extraordinary and actually very disturbing.

I'm Glad you have come to the right decision - what an unpleasant situation for you - hope you get Well soon xx