Would you put up with this?

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Other half appears to have had some sort of porn issue, not saying addiction but has watched it a lot, in the morning before work while I've been in bed, soon as I've left the house etc.
Before anyone says anything, it's each to their own on porn. Some watch it some don't, some don't mind their partners watching it some do.

So as a youngish woman who has a very healthy sex drive, would you put up with your partner being completely mute with his eyes shut clearly imagining porn in his head while you're giving your all on top in the most non vanilla way possible? What a turn off

Is that what's happening? The porn is making him not relate to you in your sex life together? I would not put up with that.

I don't mind porn as a sometimes thing, daily is a bit hmmm , but if he's shut off from connecting with you that's not something you can live with is it.

How is he not addicted? That’s several times a day and it’s interfering with the rest of his life. Does he work?

No, I wouldn’t put up with any of it. It sucks. You can do better.

@Anotheruser02 he once told me he's had to do it in the past before with his ex (who was in now way unattractive, I obviously don't know how she performed if it turned him off but still)
It's always stuck in my mind.

But yes I'm pretty sure he actually can't connect with "normal" sex. I have actually brought this up with him tonight after a few months of (not always) awkward sex

@AnneLovesGilbert
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Yes he works. He's been doing it on work breaks too.

How long have you been with him?

@Anotheruser02
3 and a half years. I've noticed issues for a while

Honestly, I would leave him. That's just so disrespectful.

He watches porn at work??? Or is he wfh?

He's using you as a wank sock while he fantasises about the porn he's addicted to? Ugh.

@KooKooKachu yep

But yes I'm pretty sure he actually can't connect with "normal" sex.

Does he care about your pleasure? I wouldn't be happy in your shoes OP

@TwentyViginti I think so, grim

@MichaelGovesLittleWilly
I've got pretty used to making sure I'm ok while he's thinking about whatever he's thinking about while I'm doing it. Never in my life have I been in this kind of situation sexually

He sounds grim and sexy doesn't sound much fun for you.

I can't decide if it's addiction or pure selfishness.

What did he say when you spoke to him?

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Please leave

No way....life's way too short for shit sex!

I think he had a problem if he watches alot of porn and can't make eye contact during tbh

@Anotheruser02 I tried to bring it up in a snon judgemental way as I could but basically asked him if he enjoys it as I don't feel I get much back from him but he said he does and he's just in the moment" so aren't sure if I'm reading into it or he's passing me off

He doesn't touch me much during sex, which is something I've never experienced before and is leaving me to believe that im actually as someone says. His wank sock

Porn causes a huge amount of problems, my exH used to watch huge amounts of BDSM porn and where we used to have lots of really loving sex when we first met he became just unable to perform any more or connect with me or be able to sustain an erection and would have to get off in the bathroom with a video.
It destroyed our marriage and our strong connection with each other and ultimately our relationship.
Sorry but I think porn is the slow death of a marriage.

No, I couldn't put up with this. I don't think I could actually feel in the mood to be intimate with someone who acted like this. I think the best part of sex is feeling totally intimate/together with the person you love, knowing they find you attractive. If dh lay with his eyes closed not touching or interacting with me I wouldn't feel we were being intimate at all.

It isn't intimate loving sex when he's just fantasising about porn. I wouldn't be interested in staying with him

Oh dear god woman, where is your self respect. Why have you settled for being some guys wank orifice? Unfortunately, many men have no idea what a normal sex like is because for them, porn is very much a solo activity.

His issues sound very deep seated and probably requires a shit load of therapy.

I was in this situation and left. I’ve since met someone who rarely if ever watches porn and the difference in our sex life is like night and day.

Nope I'd be leaving. It's just so unattractive.

It sounds like he's an addict, this won't get any better