Would you put up with this?

[user1231121]

Other half appears to have had some sort of porn issue, not saying addiction but has watched it a lot, in the morning before work while I've been in bed, soon as I've left the house etc.
Before anyone says anything, it's each to their own on porn. Some watch it some don't, some don't mind their partners watching it some do.

So as a youngish woman who has a very healthy sex drive, would you put up with your partner being completely mute with his eyes shut clearly imagining porn in his head while you're giving your all on top in the most non vanilla way possible? What a turn off

So we've had a bit of back and fourth conversation today whilst we've both been at work. I've had to ask outright about things. He's said he hasn't got a porn addiction and tonight he wants ME to put a parent lock on his phone to prove this. Now I'm not controlling in a relationship but this feels like it even though he's asked me to do it I havent suggested it. What do people think about that? Can we work through this?

No, he is putting the responsibility for his actions on you by asking you to put the lock on for him, don't do it.

Unless he dials it back and stops being selfish in bed I really do not think this can be resolved. It is so disrespectful to not be present when being intimate with someone.

Also, if he is doing it before work, at work (gross) and after work, he definitely is addicted and if he is not going to admit that to himself then there is no hope of him changing and you deserve much better than this

he wants ME to put a parent lock on his phone to prove this

He is making you responsible for his actions, big nope. If he was drinking before, during and after work you would have no problem saying he was displaying addict behaviours, this is no different, just a different addiction.

If you need support try Sanon, it is for partners of people who have sex addiction/addictive behaviours. I am a member because of the actions of a partner, he started with the porn, then paid webcams, then escorts, then a co-worker affair. The behaviour escalated as he needed more and more thrills, I will never have a relationship again because of what I discovered, I have been diagnosed with PTSD. I am now 40, no husband and no chance for a baby, my life was left in shreds because of his addiction. My advice run, run far and fast. If you have any questions about any of it message me.

Without getting into porn itself . Staying with him seems to be a matter of whether you want him to continue to use you as an outlet for his fantasies with the porn women .
It’s really a personal choice whether this is acceptable to you or not . No one can answer other than you

That sex sounds bad OP. I suggest dumping him.

Letting you block porn on his phone is just a grand gesture in the hope he'll get away with how he's been acting.

Even if you did it, he'd just find other ways/devices to access it.