Blocked by partner of a year

[veraismyspiritanimal]

We fell out yesterday. I told him how he made me feel upset me- he ranted back acted the victim and has stonewalled me all day. So I sent a messenger message saying I'm sorry I'm having to chase to get the basic decency of being told what's going on and poof blocked. On all platforms.
He's been talking about us moving in together and now all of a sudden I've been stonewalled and blocked within a day
I feel really upset please help

I think he's done you a massive favour, honestly. Block him as well and move on.

Lucky escape. Block in return, box up his stuff and send it to him, have a huge cathartic cry and move on.

He doesn't have any stuff here we don't live together

God that’s a lucky escape OP. The real test will be not falling into line when he unblocks you and expects a grovelling apology... ad infinitum

His true colours are showing OP!
Decent people don't immediately block as a way of resolving an argument, he's exercising control.. big red flag i'm afraid.

He won't unblock he's notoriously pig headed and will never admit fault. I know I'm better off without him just in this interim period I feel sad and empty and need to know how to stop feeling sad or getting angry and trying to get even

Dont chase him. Trust me.

Seems a bit extreme after one argument! How old is he?

He is 50

@Justwingingmotherhood I won't trust me
It's not the first time he's done stuff like this. He's sent me photos of him crying in the past when I've suggested we split and now this?

Don't lower yourself by trying to "get even." No matter what you do, he simply won't give a shit .

Why did you apologise? This is not adult behaviour , he's 50!

Life with this man will be hell.

Walk away with your dignity intact by blocking, deleting and moving on.

That is awful, sorry that has happened to you 💐. You deserve so much better and as much as it hurts right now he has done you a massive favour.

‘If someone shows you who they are, believe them’, OP. You’ve had a lucky escape. It’ll be shit for a while and then the fog will lift and it’ll be like an enormous weight off. What was he like in a relationship? I’m sure this behaviour isn’t a one off

Great fun and generally considerate but the smallest things would set off a wobbly. Question me over how I knew certain men on Instagram etc make jokey comments about my 'fan club' liking my photos several incidences of stone walling if we had a disagreement

He's sent me photos of him crying in the past when I've suggested we split

Oh dear god! I think he’s been watching too many daily fail videos! He sounds more like a five year old. Thank your lucky stars he’s blocked you and you’ve seen what he’s like before moving in together!

So many red flags on the way to this. Move on glad in the knowledge you've had a lucky escape.

He's fifty? And he sends you ugly crying face photos when you've had a row? Run, don't walk from The Blob . . .

50? I wonder what his relationship history is like.

You've had a lucky escape there, op. He clearly hasn't managed to mature past about 12.

He's done you a very big favour

He sounds like a right delight.

You’ve dodged a bullet. He sounds very manipulative and selfish as well as unable to take responsibility or communicate properly.
Sod that.

You’re the lucky one. Block him right back so you are not tempted when he inevitably decided he’s punished you enough and he is ready to forgive you because he needs a shag.

Er, no OP. Stay strong. He’s an arse. Plenty more fish in the sea.

Bloody hell wouldn't expect a 50 year old to act like this. Just try and keep your mind busy stick some tunes on have a cuppa or wine etc and try and forget him

"He won't unblock he's notoriously pig headed and will never admit fault."

This is a terrible fault to have. Mumsnet is full of women starting threads about stubborn, pig headed partners making them miserable decades down the line, often with children then involved. Often it turns out they avoided screaming red flags like this early on in the relationship. It's a lucky escape, honestly. Also, sending pictures of himself crying? Incredibly immature. Just far too much drama. You've only been together for a year - this should be the happiest of times.

How to stop feeling sad? Distract yourself with all the pleasant things you can do in a home without a sulky man-baby dragging your life down. Draft messages you never send if you're weakening. Call or contact friends or family you haven't spoken to in a while. Stick headphones on and go for a long walk to lift your mood. Usual stuff.

@veraismyspiritanimal

He won't unblock he's notoriously pig headed and will never admit fault. I know I'm better off without him just in this interim period I feel sad and empty and need to know how to stop feeling sad or getting angry and trying to get even

OK, how to stop feeling sad and angry now:

If this relationship were to continue imagine what it would be like to be living together, married, have children together with this character. What does that really look like to you? Keep in mind that a few years down the line you might not have as much resilience as you do now because you’ll probably have spend years on the back foot, second guessing his mood and reactions. That life is all yours for the taking if you keep chasing, if you crawl to him and accept the blame and say sorry and keep saying sorry, day after day, month after month, year after year.

Or you can feel bruised now for a short while and get even, no, not “even”, you can get ahead of him by living a life free of a manipulative wanker.

The best thing you can do now is call a friend, organise nice things, plan nights out with friends. Put your energy and investment elsewhere. You know you’ve swerved a bullet.