I’ve been seeing a lovely man for a few months. All going really well, absolutely no red flags at all. If anything I think he’s hugely out of my league and I’m not sure why he’s interested in me but that probably just my lack of self esteem rather than anything else.
He split from his ex about 3 years ago. It was a bit of a messy split from what I can gather - she left him for someone else and he had a complete breakdown as a result, was signed off work with stress for months, had to have counselling for over a year. Although he seems to be over it as much as you can be it obviously hurt him massively.
Anyway, out of sheer nosiness I looked up his wife on social media. She looks identical to me. Not just similar, genuinely identical. I could understand if it was something like we were both blonde/ similar body type/ whatever as that may just be his ‘type’. But there was one photo where she was wearing sunglasses, I showed it to my best friend and she genuinely thought it was me.
Is that massively weird? We met online, I only had a couple of photos of me on my profile. The first time that we met he said that he thought I looked different to my photos. I asked if that was a bad thing and he said that I looked much better in real life than I did in my photos. He couldn’t stop staring at me and smiling on our first few dates. I thought that was because he fancied me but now I’m thinking that it’s because he realised he’s just found a clone of his wife.
Should I say something? I’m supposed to be going for a birthday dinner with his parents in a few weeks, there’s absolutely no way they won’t immediately think that he’s with me because I look like his ex wife.