DH problems

[julietmanchester]

For the last few months, DH has been telling me he finds Latin women more attractive than me and other women (im white); he started playing Latin music during dinner out of nowhere; he threw a tantrum about how Latin people are victims of racism.

I am wondering if he is having an affair or has a crush on a woman of Latin origin?

I don't understand what is going on, but he has developed a deep affinity for Latin culture in the last few months.

Any feedback on how to handle this would be appreciated.

If he likes Latin so much tell him BREVIOR SALTARE CUM DEFORMIBUS VIRIS EST VITA

@JaneJeffer

Do you mind translating?

Life is too short to dance with ugly

Tell him you prefer six packs and big dicks?

I hope he hasn't found a Latina girlfriend. He's much too much of a twat to inflict on one woman, let alone two.

My El Salvadorian friend doesn't date men who sexualise her culture.

Is it possible he's going through a midlife crisis?
Sorry not trying to imply that he's old if he isn't lol
Have you asked him where this new love of Latin women has suddenly come about?

Does he have a history of developing fixations (and being insensitive/rude)?

And Latin guys are super hot too. Start looking at pictures of them, start saying how sexy they are so he gets a taste of his own medicine. On a more grown up note, perhaps you could jointly research one Latin country at a time to understand the background and the history of each individual country.

Sounds like an obsession! Fair enough being interested in another culture etc but actually saying to you that he finds Latin women more attractive is not nice. If my Fiance said what your dh has he would likely not be my Fiance for much longer!!! Yes Latin women are attractive but there are attractive women in every race. My exh fancied a certain race of women. He had hidden pictures etc and it made me feel so inferior. I challenged him and he said I'm with you aren't I? The more I saw him ogling these women etc the more my small amount of confidence was eroded.

Your DH sounds like a dick!

And Latin guys are super hot too. Start looking at pictures of them, start saying how sexy they are so he gets a taste of his own medicine.

^^This. I'd start agreeing with him about how attractive latin men are compared to white men. Play the twat at his own game.

Just to add, where the heck does he get off saying those things to you?!

Yes, I'd say play the twat at his own game too. Put up posters of Enrique Inglesias everywhere and play his music on repeat. Say you are so glad that you both appreciate hot Latin looks. Change his screensavers to a shirtless Enrique if you have access to his devices. Get Enrique's face and torso printed on a pillow and snuggle up to it at night. Start online salsa lessons so that 'you are ready to go to real clubs when Covid is over'.

Two words.

Ruben Cortada (Cuban).

Tbh though, whatever fixation someone is going through, what sort of person tells their partner they find whatever type more attractive than them?
He sounds v weird/slightly unhinged.

Sounds like he's got mentionitis. Your spidey senses are telling you something OP. Dig deeper!

He sounds ridiculous and a bit crazy, I wouldn't be so sure that a "sexy" Latin woman would want him outside of his dreams.

Do you have children?

He's either got a fixation on a Latino celeb or a woman he's met (would he have many opportunities to meet someone like that).

Either way his behaviour is like a child or teenager's.
He's embarrassing.

For the last few months, DH has been telling me he finds Latin women more attractive than me and other women (im white); he started playing Latin music during dinner out of nowhere; he threw a tantrum about how Latin people are victims of racism

Where does one even start with that?? It sounds like bizarre behaviour to me.

I once briefly dated a white british guy who was really into many things Latino.. he was teaching himself Spanish, would play Latino music each time I was at his place, and he would comment that he liked the curvaceous shape of Latino women.
He said he was attracted to my figure because I had similar curves (there is not an ounce of Latino in my family!).
I didn't date him for much longer after that. He seemed obsessed with the culture and he had a lot of Spanish/Latino female friends. He had a Spanish ex, and another (not sure what nationality she was) who looked Latino. I guess he just had a type.

I can't say what has caused the sudden change in your Husband, but I'd agree with PP.. it sounds like he had been struck by someone Latino and he's developed a crush/obsession. Could be something simple like the barista he orders his coffee from each morning in Starbucks is a Latino woman. Or perhaps he has a new Latino colleague?
I'd be suspicious myself if I was in your shoes.. the fact this has come out of nowhere, but has become quite prevalent.. it's like that honeymoon phase of a new relationship when you just can't stop talking to your close friends/family about this new wonderful person in your life.

Have you asked your Husband where this new found love of Latino culture has come from? What did he say?

describe your DH's genetic appearance ?

Holy fuckballs I just Googled Ruben Cortada. He's the one you need to use for your counter-obsession campaign, OP. Let's see how your DH handles that.

Damn Romans...

What a gorgeous man!! Ruben
that is

@pointythings

Holy fuckballs I just Googled Ruben Cortada. He's the one you need to use for your counter-obsession campaign, OP. Let's see how your DH handles that.

Oh my goodness I just googled this Ruben fellow too. This is your counterpoint.

Holy fuckballs I just Googled Ruben Cortada

I know, I don't know how he isn't more famous (in English speaking countries anyway).

Those shots of him in the green swimming shorts ...

Sorry for the derail op.

Your oh sounds completely insane. Book him a one way ticket to Latin America (not envy)

@PP

DH is white British, on the shorter side, slender, blonde.

I don't know what else to say to describe him but his personality is vile.