DH problems

[julietmanchester]

For the last few months, DH has been telling me he finds Latin women more attractive than me and other women (im white); he started playing Latin music during dinner out of nowhere; he threw a tantrum about how Latin people are victims of racism.

I am wondering if he is having an affair or has a crush on a woman of Latin origin?

I don't understand what is going on, but he has developed a deep affinity for Latin culture in the last few months.

Any feedback on how to handle this would be appreciated.

I find his new obsessive behaviour deeply troubling, or am I overreacting? Yes, his comment that I'm not as hot as Latin women is not only hurtful, it's also laughable. He's not the best looking lad, but I would never say that to him.

I'm thinking he either found a new woman he is interested in; or he is actually cheating on me, and 'bringing' his new relationship into our home.

Should I find myself a new man? I'm unwilling to confront him due to his dishonesty, lack of condor, and I don't think it's worth listening to his vile insults anymore.

Meant to write: lack of candor.

Yeah don’t even bother trying to understand why he’s saying that. It sounds like the marriage is over on both sides so just start planning your exit. You deserve better. And he deserves to meet and subsequently get dumped by, for fetishising her culture a nice Latina lady.

I don't know what else to say to describe him but his personality is vile.

Why on earth are you with someone you know is vile and is also disrespectful of you?!

Ask him straight, Do you want a relationship with someone else/ are you having a relationship with someone else? Let him know why you've asked him ( because he seems fixated on other types of women) and tell him, you're not going to put up with his insensitive comments. You certainly deserve better than that! Anyway, there's probably thousands of Latin women who would not prefer him and many Latin and other men who would be completely enamoured of you. If he doesn't love ya, he could lose ya!

Ruben! Oh myyyyy

OP it sounds like you're done with him. Are you able to divorce him now?

@RantyAnty

I'm trying! Difficult due to him not responding to anything - he is denying everything and saying nothing.

@RantyAnty

I would love a divorce and not be with such a vile man. Can't happen fast enough

Well then do that. Don't cheat! That makes you the arsehole.

I don't know what else to say to describe him but his personality is vile.

Aw OP. You can't stay marrried to someone whose personality you find vile (and it certainly sounds like it) can you?

I don't think it's worth listening to his vile insults anymore.

Time to plan and act on making your mistake.

*ecape lol, not a mistake at all!

Another vote for Ruben! Wow! I wonder if he goes for the older (yet immaculately preserved) woman??

I quite like the very smoking Italian Michele Morrone....

www.instagram.com/iammichelemorroneofficial/

How old is your DH OP? This kind of preoccupation sounds remarkably like a mid-life crisis...

@Apple222

He's 39.

Dh literally said he has nothing to apologise for, so I will divorce straight away.

He is vile. The end.

39, about to hit his 40s, developing a sudden infatuation for a specific type of woman, fighting a new cause as the potential saviour of women who, for no reason at all, he believes will ‘need’ him while putting down his previous choices of partner as though he has suddenly seen the light...his destiny...an idyllic, glamorous future which no-one can possibly understand...

Do men not realise how embarrassing they are?

I assume he wasn’t always like this OP?

for you.

@Apple222

Thank you. Lots of flowers for me! But first, leave the man who is rarely loving, or supportive.

He is so rude and disrespectful. How would he like it if you told him you liked other men? Does he have any Latina work colleagues or friends? Can't stand men who fetishize women based on race. He's an embarrasment and you need to remember you are too good for a fool like this. If you are going to stay with him then take the piss, play him at his own game and do what other posters have suggested here, to combat his ridiculousness.

tonto sin vergüenza

@DeeCeeCherry

I'm not sure he even cares he's rude, why else would be bother telling me that?

And I think I will just divorce him, and not think about it ever again. He is a miserable, verbally abusive little man.

I think he deserves someone just like him.

When did he become like this OP?

He’s telling you this because he wants to reassure himself that he is attractive, interesting, passionate, a decent man.... For whatever reason, he’s hooked into Latin culture but it could quite easily have been another cause or interest...

This isn’t about you OP, it’s about him and his insecurity.

Ridiculous yes and difficult for you to watch and hear. My guess is he has a low self-esteem because no-one with a healthy self-image would behave like this.

Silly man.

@MashedSweetSpud

Tell him you prefer six packs and big dicks?

LOL Best answer ever!

It sounds like there's lots going on in the relationship none of it very good. Is this very odd behaviour just one thing in a line of unpleasant behaviour towards you?