Contact out of the blue from ex friend

[Jammymare]

I was blocked and ghosted by a very close friend 2 years ago now. I found out that she had secretly befriended the woman my ex had a two year affair after they continued their relationship, and following advice on here I let her know how hurtful it was as I didn’t want the feelings to fester and ruin our friendship. I wasn’t prepared for her reaction and the drama that followed which resulted in her badmouthing me to our mutual friends and blocking me etc. At the time, I found this more upsetting and more of a betrayal than discovering my ex’s affair the year before!
A mutual friend saw her today and let her know I’d been in a nasty accident. An hour later I have a message on Facebook from her saying how sorry she was to hear about my accident.
At this stage I’m inclined to ignore the message. I’ve had lots of good news this year that she will have known about so why is she waiting for the bad news to offer an olive branch?
On the other hand am I being a petty cow for ignoring her?
What would you do, reply or ignore?

I would delete and ignore the message.....
Then I’d send a message back saying “Thank you”....’cos I’m a wuss.

Ignore her. A real friend would hate that woman as much as you not befriend her.

Ignore. She isn’t worth your time at all

There is no reason to do anything other than to ignore. She's not a nice person and she likes drama. There's no drama in good news, but there is drama in bad news. That's why she's got in touch with you now.

Ignore!

Do only what you think would make you feel better. You don’t owe her anything.

Personally I’m not good at being fallen out with people and the message would gnaw at me. So in your shoes, I would probably send her a polite but non-committal reply (eg Thanks. Hope all well with you. Something like that - but no questions- nothing that suggests you’re looking for a response). Then the ball’s in her court if she wants to take things forward but you’ll have done your bit.

But if you’re comfortable ignoring her, then just do that.

Maybe she's had time to reflect on how she's acted and now feels bad? She wouldn't reach out if she didn't care? This may be the start of her making amends?
I suppose all you have to decide is - do you want to be friends again? If yes, then reply. If no, then ignore

I once was put in the position to reveal to a friend some stuff about her DH that no one would like to find out. We never had a fight but things cooled off to the point of going NC. I later found out she developed a lifestyle changing illness and I was thinking really hard about whether to contact her or not. I decided not to thinking that I would only open up an old wound. There was never drama between us but I understood her decision. My thinking to contact her later would have been to show support, not because I felt sorry for how things had gone. And I was never interested in talking to other people about her life either.
What I am trying to say to you is that she may have not heard about your life until this accident. She only said she was sorry for the accident. You should not look too much into it for your own good. I know our situations are not identical but it could give you an insight about what she is thinking.
I hope you have a speedy recovery.

Sorry Op, haven’t answered your question. Do whatever feels good for you. Do not value yourself using her as a reference point. After all she’s let you down twice, by befriending your ex’s cheat partner and by badmouthing you. That says a lot about her, so whatever she may think of you now should not affect your peace of mind.

Ignore and block.
She's a traitor and on top of that bad-mouthed you!!

...as the old adage goes: 'with friends like that, who needs enemies.'

Ignore and block. I've been ghosted by a friend before and there is no going back from that imo.

@MaeveDidIt

...as the old adage goes: 'with friends like that, who needs enemies.'

This.

Don't go there.
She showed you exactly who she is.

Wishing you the best.

@Eckhart

There is no reason to do anything other than to ignore. She's not a nice person and she likes drama. There's no drama in good news, but there is drama in bad news. That's why she's got in touch with you now.

This. I had a major car crash and this happened with a few people who had been pretty horrible in the past. Drama llamas.

She will see you as more vulnerable and think you will be more receptive to her now then you are after good things.
Ignore, block and delete.

I would NEVER speak to her again. Her choice has been made, some bridges just can't be rebuilt.

I doubt very much that she is concerned with how you have coped and recovered. She most likely wants to know all the gory details in order to spread the gossip and drama around.

Don't respond or give her any information that can be used about you.

Ignore.
She probably did it to make herself look caring, not because she cares about you.

You already know she's like a viper in the grass, op. I would be very tempted to tell her to go fuck herself, but I would use restraint and just ignore and block.

Ignore and block. She showed you what type of person she was, she won't have changed.

Hope you make a good recovery from your accident 💐

Ignore her. She's not worth a second of your attention.

Block the bitch.

Yeah, block the silly cow

Ignore and block. It’s very empowering.

Ignore. Sounds like she feeds drama.