how would u feel if ur oh wass calling sex lines

[starshaker]

just curious

over the moon, obviously.

but what would u do

go apeshit. what excuses has he made? if he's making excuses or lying or just not caring if you find out, he needs dumping. sorry.

Since i pay the phone bill, quite annoyed

Depends what the topic was aswell...if it was 'Hot Saggy Granny Tells All', i'd be a tad worried. But then i suppose that's something i can't fulfill in him...i'm far too young and firm.

As long as he's paying for the call I don't see the problem...not much different to watching porn imo.

Hmmm, calling a sex line to wank off or watching porn. Phone sex is a big no no, surely?

starshaker,are you married yet

No, couldn't care less about porn but think phoning a chat line is completely beyond the pale. Would be out of order IMO

Has he admitted to this? Would be a shame to kick off about it only to discover it's the teenage babysitter making the calls...

I'd be livid and kick him out if I'm totally honest, I don't know if i'd kick him out for good over it but I'd definatley want some space away from him - Also i think the nasty/ angry part of me would want him to be humiliated when he tells people why i'd kicked him out (suspect he wouldn't own up though and then if he did I'd probably feel more hurt because I'd feel i'm not enough for him)

i would be furious - they cost a damn fortune!

I really don't see the difference between porn and a sex chat line. Tho phone sex with someone you know personally - well that would be a reason to dump someone...tho I'd also think your should dump someone who'd been watching sex videos starring a friend iyswim.

I don't think there's much difference between this and watching porn either. Both disgusting, sleazy and have no place in an adult relationship IMO.

Hmm you see, I would be miffed over phone sex I think. It's a bit less abstract then porn.

I would think that if you need more than imagination/porn to satisfy yourself to you start talking to anon women and paying for the pleasure you are on a slippery slope to some kind of addiction. Maybe.

Plus I bet she markets herself as 'Angel, busty blonde with a usky voice' and really she's probably 'Maureen, 65, smokes 40 a day and is wearing a house coat and slippers'

i dont mind porn, but if i thought he was spending £2.50 per minute to talk to some scraggy granny i would have to brain him with the flippin phone

been married less than 2 months. found it on the last numbers dialed called it and its live women he denied it then said it was just a story 1 (what the hell are they) he say he hung up straight away but the phones says he chose some1 to speak to

can you not get a ban on those sort of numbers. and then tell him if he does it again its his nuts on a plate

Is it just 1 call? Maybe he was curious?....

Think I would resist from going apeshit over this, may make him do it again behind your back.

Think you need to find out why he felt teh need personally.

he used to do it and i told him how it made me feel and he said he would never do it again

Well this is a tough one then.

if you've made your feelings clear, and he still does it, that is very unfair. and expensive.

The deceit is the issue for me. If he knows you don't like and he continues to do it, that's out of order and shows a lack of respect.

Very angry. Does he think having phone sex with women doesn't count if he pays them to do it?

Yuck.

Star shaker - its really crap! How have you handled it so far? What do you want to do?

Personally I don't think phone sex 'counts' in the same way that porn doesn't 'count.

I'd have a problem with the lying tho. If he promised he wouldn't do it then did it anyway, that's crossing the line.