Girlfriend won't stop flirting with other men

[Scott33]

So, some of you may remember that I started a post a while back about how my girlfriend was pregnant and we didn't know who the father was because we had a break in our relationship.
Anyway, I decided that I would stick by her regardless of who the father was.
The trouble is since getting back together with her she won't stop flirting with other men both online and in real life.
I've told her it really bothers me when she does this but she said she'll do whatever she wants.
I really want to stay with her but I can't bear it when she does this.
What would you do if you were in my situation?

Cut your losses.

What do you mean by flirting?

I would call it a day. Find out if the baby is yours when it's born. If it is, support her accordingly.

“I would call it a day. Find out if the baby is yours when it's born. If it is, support her accordingly.”

This.

@DilemmaDerby

Cut your losses.

What do you mean by flirting?

So for example on a Facebook group that we're both in she will talk provocatively to the male members of the group

A while back..you mean the other week?!

She's messing you about big time, bin her off.

Why bother? You either accept that she flirts and sleeps around - she's shown you that's who she is - or leave.

If you want a normal relationship with a trustworthy, loving woman who has respect for herself and for you, then you need to raise your standards.

Relationships, even when strong and committed, are tested by the arrival of a baby.

Your relationship with your partner is neither strong nor committed and won't survive.

Get out now, get a paternity test when the time comes and proceed from there.

Honestly, it is time to move on. End the relationship and walk away.

Did she decide to continue the pregnancy?

I remember your last thread. Almost every single poster told you to step away from this situation. That advice is still solid.

@ArnieLinson

Honestly, it is time to move on. End the relationship and walk away.

Did she decide to continue the pregnancy?

Yes, she decided to keep it

@PaterPower

I remember your last thread. Almost every single poster told you to step away from this situation. That advice is still solid.

I know, but in all honesty I couldn't step away from her when there was the possibility that she was carrying my child

You can still be there for the child.

You don’t have to be with her

Hmmm. If you're the poster I think you are, the general consensus last time was that you ought to leave her anyway, so I'll stand by that.

However, I am aware that some men's ideas of what constitutes flirting and talking 'provocatively' are a little wide of the mark so I won't make a comment on that account.

@Appleofmyeye05

You can still be there for the child.

You don’t have to be with her

This. All parties need to grow up and focus on the baby - assuming you will have a paternity test when he / she arrives in order to behave responsibly or so she can deal responsibly with the other guy if he's the father. She sounds like a headfuck and a half - unfortunately some people react this way when they get given a second chance, they lose respect for you and treat you worse than before not better. She's a dick.

I don't think talking to men is flirting.

What are you getting out of this relationship exactly?

Regardless of whether her behaviour is unreasonable or not the same stands true for you as it does for any woman posting with a relationship problem:
if something your partner does is making you unhappy, but they don't want to change their behaviour and you don't want to end the relationship then your only choice is to continue in the relatioship but find a way to be happy (unlikely) or continue in the relationship unhappy.
(And this would be true regardless of whether the behaviour is hogging the remote control, following porn stars on instagram, singing Les Miserables songs in the shower or engaging in noisy ritualistic sacrifices to Cthullu 7 times a week.)

@Glitterb

What are you getting out of this relationship exactly?

Not sure really, I'm beginning to ask myself the same question. If it were one of my friends in the same position I would be telling them to run a mile. But it's different when it's yourself and there are feelings involved

We’d have all left by now.

You must be a sucker for punishment! 🙄

I think she wants you to leave. Has she actually said that she wants to be with you?

She’s too much work, move on.

She does not respect you at all or appreciate you, would she be ok if the shoes was on the other foot?.. I'm sorry this is happening to you x

OP she has zero respect for you.
Regardless of whether the child is yours you need to be off before she drives you demented. Not good in any situation.
You can always find a way to father your child it's been done before.
How does she say she feels about you?
When is the baby due?

Just reading your comments has annoyed me!!

Stop being a doormat, and grow a pair!!!

There's plenty of fish in the sea, especially ones that won't have unprotected sex, and flirt with men just to wind you up!!

This is a toxic relationship and if this is your child then your child will be better off if you split up and you and the mother limiting contact and just trying to remain civil rather than to be brought up in a household where the parents have that kind of dynamic going on between them.