Girlfriend won't stop flirting with other men

[Scott33]

So, some of you may remember that I started a post a while back about how my girlfriend was pregnant and we didn't know who the father was because we had a break in our relationship.
Anyway, I decided that I would stick by her regardless of who the father was.
The trouble is since getting back together with her she won't stop flirting with other men both online and in real life.
I've told her it really bothers me when she does this but she said she'll do whatever she wants.
I really want to stay with her but I can't bear it when she does this.
What would you do if you were in my situation?

@doubleaces89 tough love 👍
I could say what a person would say to you from where I come from but I don't want to out myself. Suffice to say get yourself home to your ma

She’s taking the Mickey and you’re being a mug. Walk away and get a dna test when baby is born.

Run. Don't make any commitment to supporting the child until you get a paternity test. If the child is yours, focus on trying to develop a good co-parenting relationship as it sounds from this thread and the previous one that your girlfriend really doesn't care for you. Sorry.

If I recall your previous thread correctly, wasn't the consensus that it most likely isn't your child?

@Baboomtsk

Run. Don't make any commitment to supporting the child until you get a paternity test. If the child is yours, focus on trying to develop a good co-parenting relationship as it sounds from this thread and the previous one that your girlfriend really doesn't care for you. Sorry.

If I recall your previous thread correctly, wasn't the consensus that it most likely isn't your child?

That's right, it's unlikely to be my child

For goodness sake OP. Wake up. You're wasting your time with this woman.

If you want to be a father you can be, you don't need to waste your life in this 'relationship'.

Walk away, it's unlikely you said that you are the father but even if you was you could co parent. What happens after she's had the baby and your looking after and supporting a baby that isn't yours while she goes frolicking with other men and then another questionable pregnancy, it's likely to happen, don't trap yourself in a life of misery with this one.

The child most likely isn't yours anyway. Leave her to make her own mistakes and deal with her own consequences. Wait 9 months and see if it's yours. The baby probably isn't yours and then you can fully walk away. If you stay, guaranteed you'll be paying for all baby stuff or at least helping pay for it. Do you really want to be parting with your money on stuff for a baby that likely isn't yours?

Stop being stupid. She doesn't even care about you anymore, she's flirting with other men, doesn't care that you're unhappy either. Give up.

This could be one of two things
You're either possessive and obsessed with her, and set on forcing her to remain in a relationship she clearly doesn't want.
Or, you're just the most spineless man I have ever come across - online or in real life.
What do you hope to achieve?

Get rid, do it today.

Reading this, I think I've been like OP's girlfriend in this situation. I was in an unhappy relationship and felt trapped and my only outlet was flirting with other men. I didn't cheat but did sleep with someone else on a break. I was miserable in the relationship and he was quite emotionally abusive and left me with zero self esteem. I'm married now to someone else and wouldn't dream of doing this to my husband as everything in the relationship is different to my last. OP is it possible she is unhappy and feels trapped? I'm not saying it's your fault but no one in a happy relationship acts like this. Anyway I think you should leave her for both your sakes regardless of whether you're the child's father or not, but you can still support her with regards to the child if it is yours.

@Crystal87

Reading this, I think I've been like OP's girlfriend in this situation. I was in an unhappy relationship and felt trapped and my only outlet was flirting with other men. I didn't cheat but did sleep with someone else on a break. I was miserable in the relationship and he was quite emotionally abusive and left me with zero self esteem. I'm married now to someone else and wouldn't dream of doing this to my husband as everything in the relationship is different to my last. OP is it possible she is unhappy and feels trapped? I'm not saying it's your fault but no one in a happy relationship acts like this. Anyway I think you should leave her for both your sakes regardless of whether you're the child's father or not, but you can still support her with regards to the child if it is yours.

We had quite a good relationship. Then we broke up over something stupid and she slept with someone else. She actually put in a lot of effort convincing me that we should get back together. I was in two minds becuase of the whole father situation but decided in the end that I would try and make things work because I have strong feelings for her. The trouble is she doesn't think she's doing anything wrong by flirting with other men, she just says it's banter and won't stop doing it.

She has no respect for you then and takes it for granted you'll always be there while she does what she wants. She's obviously seeking something from these other men and you may never be enough for her. It could be nothing personal to you, just the way she is but either way it's going to live a life of misery.

If you want a normal relationship with a trustworthy, loving woman who has respect for herself and for you, then you need to raise your standards

This with bells on!!

What are you even doing OP. End the relationship and have the child DNA tested.

PS If you want an organ grinder you have to stop associating with monkeys.

Ffs -end it. Which is what you should have done after you last posted

And if the baby is yours you support your child.

From your last post it’s extraordinarily likely you are not the father anyway.