Flakey date 😡

[nolovelost]

Hi all, I really should know what to do, I've been online dating for years and always know what to do! If it was someone on here I'd know exactly what to say!

Got chatting to someone online, never had so much in common with someone and chats have been amazing. We tried to arrange a date the other week and he was a bit flakey - nothing major, I decided to give him a chance. And then we were supposed to meet tonight - eagerness from both sides, his idea etc.

I asked yesterday if he wanted to still meet, hasn't replied until this morning (was preparing myself for flakiness or excuse).

Says he has an issue with his dog, and if he's telling the truth then that's sad and understand. But he said he doesn't want to leave it on it's own. In past conversations he says that his ex is moving out at the beginning of next month so the pet wouldn't be on it's own!

If he's telling the truth I need to reply in a way that won't stop him from messaging in the future. But I want to keep it brief and to the point so he knows I'm not sure about his excuse.

So I was thinking along the lines of 'I'm sorry to hear about your dog. I'll leave it up to you to message if you want to meet'

Due to the first flakiness I told myself I'd just block if I got messed about, but what if I'm wrong??

God... shall I just move on?

@litterbird thanks, I get what you're saying, I do.

I'm just not in the right frame of mind for second guessing and I need to just put it behind me, not contact him and move on. Someone is either there or they're not. I'm very black and white, I have to protect myself.

Appreciate all the comments, I've taken them all on board.

@litterbird

If he rehearses in a band I sort of get it....I have dated, am with a musician now and also rehearse myself and I am afraid the music rehearsals will come first with musicians. I would give him one last chance purely because I have a friend who is desperate to leave his house, he separated from his ex back in March then covid hit so they live together separately...he hates it but this is the way things are. He is keen to move on with dating but its hard for him to find someone who believes he really is over and finished with the ex. He's a musician too. If he flakes again, its just he is not in the right space to move on and may not be for a long time. Exes can get back together frequently so there is always that chance too. One more shot then leave it for good.

Nah. He shouldn't be dating then. Waste of energy

Let us know how you get on OP.

Thanks @litterbird I will but don't think they'll be anything to report back. Sorry I've not replied individually to people, I've had a bit of a nightmare at work.

I'm a strong woman, time to move on! 🤣

no meeting no date. I won't accept excuses.

Sounds like @litterbird’s friend could be the guy you’ve been chatting to @nolovelost??

@Dizzywizz not sure as @litterbird said he was desperate to leave his house but he said that she was leaving? Things change though I suppose.

Could be him! However, this weekend he left the marital home and has moved back in to his parents house, his house is up for sale but its dragging on due to covid.

The text should of been enough without any flakyness, add that in and it's all too messy to touch.