Separated but he still wants sex

[NewMe2]

So, I told my husband I wanted to separate 2 weeks ago. It’s been up and down on his part, I feel good about my decision, and I’m sticking with it but due to difficult situation we will have to live together for at least the next couple of months. We are currently sleeping separate obviously. But he has said several times, and he is deadly serious, we should still have sex! I thought he was kidding at first,,,but no. Obviously I’ve said no chance but he believes that this is totally acceptable!! Why on earth would he think this would be ok? I can’t help but laugh at him when he suggests it! As well as a big fat no of course! I don’t know why I’m writing this to you guys, probably because I’m confused with this behaviour!!!

He's nothing to lose :)

Can’t think why you’re letting this charmer go.
Stick to your guns.

At least you know you made the right decision!

I don't think it's confusing. It is very opportunistic. He probably enjoys sex and enjoys having it with you. It's not unknown for exes to sleep with each other from time to time so he probably thinks "why not"? Of course - you can have a completely different take on it and in your shoes I'm sure I would want to keep my distance. But I don't think it's particularly odd that he's suggested it.

Maybe he thinks he is so great at sex, you will want some anyway. Do you still sometimes eat the same dinner? Perhaps same in his mind.

I cannot imagine why you are divorcing such a prince.

Wantin' ain't the same as gettin'. . .

No wonder you want to leave, what disgusting behaviour.

Of course it's odd that he's suggesting it. She has told him she wants the relationship to end. If they were living together and having sex there wouldn't be much end to it would there.

A good indication of what he sees you as. This is entitled male twattery in full force.

I can see what's in this for him? What about you? I assume part of why you're separating is that you no longer find his cock irresistible. . . perhaps he needs this explained in very short words with very long crayons.

A good indication of what he sees you as. This is entitled male twattery in full force.

This ^ wot @Nackajory said

When I left my ExH he got very angry at me when I started to see a new guy (didn't pan out anyway but not the point) because, get this, if I wanted to have sex I should have come to him because he wanted sex too don'tkerknow!

I was flabbergasted he could think like that, it was like I was his sexual property! Needless to say I told him to get stuffed! It wasn't just about the sex for me anyway but it clearly was for him. He was an emotionally abusive arsehole anyway but that incident just hammered home how little he thought of me as a human being.

I think with some people and their ex's it can work but to have someone feel they are entitled to it is just something else.

If he is making you uncomfortable OP make it absolutely clear how it makes you feel and that he needs to STOP asking, it will not happen and it is sex pest-y to keep asking.

Are you ok?

Not quite the same scale, but definitely in the ballpark of CFry, my exH once text me late on a Friday night to go pick him up because he had missed his train. This was Months after we’d split, it wasn’t amicable, he’d been sending me messages about how toxic I was earlier in the evening.
I’m quite proud of myself that I said no, as I’m ashamed to say I probably would have gone if we had still been together.

Tell him you'd rather gouge your own eye balls out of their sockets with a rusty spoon than have his lodged up penis within 10 feet of you.

That should give the leg humping twat the message.

No wonder you want to leave, what disgusting behaviour.

Why? It doesn't sound like he's pressuring her or anything. The OP can always just say no, or laugh at him.

I've had sex with ex-partners before. One became a long term FWB and we were both happy. We just didn't suit being in a relationship with each other.

He's a shallow gaslighting chancer

I had a ex who ended things but said he wouldn't rule out sex with me as though it was his choice. He was seriously surprised when I explained I choose to only have sex in relationships.

We still stayed friends, but when I met someone else the twat said it was hard for him to know I was having sex so easily with someone else. Unsurprisingly I had enough at that point.

Some men are completely led by their penis!

I'm not surprised really...known divorcing couples do this quite a
but.

An Ex BF suggested the same to me many years ago, but I'd say it was different, as although I instigated the split, it wasn't due to not being happy in the relationship.

I did agree for a while, but I felt it was unfair to him and giving him false hope of getting back together.

It’s probably because he thinks if you two continue to have sex then you’ll fall back in to the pattern of married life. He has a cheek OP, I’m so glad you haven’t budged.

My exH thought we'd share a bed and etc. Fortunately the first time he suggested it I laughed in his face (completely involuntary).

"Hard hard no".

my DD is going through similar - late night msgs etc - and she actually LTB three months ago.
It was totally not amicable due to a catalogue of abusive behaviour on his part.
Every time i think I've seen it all, the male sense of entitlement still astounds me anew.

I don’t see what he’s done that’s so bad. My ex kept suggesting we have sex after we split, and I just kept saying no. I took it as confirmation of my own hotness and nothing more.

He's hoping that if you continue to have sex that you will fall back into the relationship. I'd try and get moved or get him out the house sooner rather than later.

He thinks you will rebond through sex.

I laughed when I read the thread title alone.