Separated but he still wants sex

[NewMe2]

So, I told my husband I wanted to separate 2 weeks ago. It’s been up and down on his part, I feel good about my decision, and I’m sticking with it but due to difficult situation we will have to live together for at least the next couple of months. We are currently sleeping separate obviously. But he has said several times, and he is deadly serious, we should still have sex! I thought he was kidding at first,,,but no. Obviously I’ve said no chance but he believes that this is totally acceptable!! Why on earth would he think this would be ok? I can’t help but laugh at him when he suggests it! As well as a big fat no of course! I don’t know why I’m writing this to you guys, probably because I’m confused with this behaviour!!!

A man who believes he’s entitled to sex on demand even after the relationship has ended..............I’m shocked 🙄

Not only would I be saying a hard no at this point, I'd be telling him it's time to move out of the spare room and into a bedsit.

There are a number of possibilities, none of which cover him with glory.

He wants a shag, any shag, and you're on hand and convenient.

He's hoping to manipulate you into staying with him.

He thinks of you as his marital property until such time as the divorce papers are signed, sealed and delivered, and thus thinks he's entitled to a shag.

Basically, I can see why you've separated. I strongly suggest you make it permanent.

It like a 5 year old how wasn’t given a warning it’s bedtime in 5 minutes!!

It’s one thing to continue IF you want too, totally different if you don’t.

I don't think it's terrible what the OPs partner has done. Obviously though, he needs to stop asking. It's only been two weeks since the break up and the OP has said he's been up and down. He's asked for sex, not demanded it. Maybe it's just his way of trying to rebond as someone else said... But it's not uncommon to want that in a relationship that you didn't want to end.

I have had sex with an ex and it was because .... He was the person I always went to when I was sad or unhappy.... And it was hard letting go. It wasn't because I only saw him as a sexual object.

Not that uncommon. My sister separated from her husband 5 years ago and they are still arguing over just about everything but doesn't stop her spending the afternoon between the sheets with him. I've given up trying to understand her , one minute she absolutely hates him and the next she can't get him inside her quick enough.