Silent car journeys

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Does anyone have a quiet DP?

Driving home from visiting family 4 hours away and only a few words spoken. Same with the journey on the way 😔 The lack of conversation seriously drives me crazy at times!

Was it just the car journey, or is he generally quiet? I like peace and quiet when I'm driving too...DH is very much used to it now.

My mum once timed the silence driving through France. My dad and I were happy to look at the countryside and enjoy each other’s company without speaking. She went mad when we finally stopped for a break! I was like ‘Well, why didn’t you say something?!’ She was apparently waiting for us to speak.

My xh was like this. He did it to be mean but also because he was/is piss boring. So happy to be rid of him.

Like to be quiet most of the time when I'm driving as I like to concentrate.

Oh I can’t be doing with people wittering on,
My dh and I do a five hour drive now and then, we leave the radio on and usually it’s a chat show of some sort or music from the 80’s/90’s. We’ll have a quip, jog down memory lane or sing a long. No proper serious conversation.

He’s just a quiet person very difficult to get a conversation going generally. I suppose I notice it more on car journeys as I’m actually stuck in the car with him 😂🙈

You need earphones and podcasts.

I'm the quiet one on a journey. I'm not generally quiet but I hate talking over the sound of the car. We regularly do 4 hour trips in near silence.

I have a DH like that, but I don't mind at all. We are happy just being in each other's company, we don't need to talk all the time.

This is reminding me of the time I went on a "jolly" event for work. For managers at grade X and above.

The coach from our site was 80% operational managers, 20% non. Oh god did we conform to type. Earphones in from minute two.

I can't stand constant yapping, especially if I'm driving somewhere new/heavy traffic and trying to focus.

I couldn't stand to be in a car with my 1st husband or mother. Made me a nervous wreck with their backseat driving.

2nd ex husband, we generally travelled well together. We'd talk and laugh for awhile and then had periods of quiet. It just flowed nicely.

Is he quiet in the car just when he drives or when you drive too?

Yeah when I was with my ex we went on holiday to the UK and did some long drives on the motorway and he was silent for most of it! I didn’t actually mind the silence but for some reason I kept thinking he was not speaking because he was pissed off with me when it was actually just that I’d never seen his proper driving face before. Once I realised that, I really enjoyed just whizzing along with just the odd bit of conversation. I’ve always enjoyed quiet car rides. Can see why it would be frustrating if you’re not that sort of person tho.

As I get older it has become harder and harder to drive and talk at the same time.

I usually fall asleep in the car after about 10 minutes so I am absolutely no company for DH!

If the relationship is otherwise good, this is one of those things you have to accept and accommodate. He’s allowed not to chat, you’re allowed to read, listen to music, play on your phone, whatever.

If the enforced togetherness is exposing the fact that you are fundamentally incompatible, well, that’s a different matter.

I could have written this post about my DP!He generally is just a quiet person but for some reason the lack of conversation in the car drives me insane. I must also drive him insane with my constant questions asking him if he's ok and why he's not talking. I'm starting to get used to it and now fill the silence (torture him) by singing along to the radio

The people who I can sit in silence with without it being awkward are my fave people. I hate it when you feel like you have to talk just to fill an awkward silence.

What is it that you have to say that's so important you can't wait for four hours?

My exh used to say the only way to stop me talking was to put me in a car As a passenger I would sit contentedly looking out of the window. As a driver I am obviously watching the road. If I am alone I often drive with the radio off too, I enjoy the silence.

My db likes to concentrate if he's driving so I don't talk, I usually fall asleep.
If I'm driving he spends the whole journey thinking were going to crash ( it's not me he's a bad passenger). So I don't talk but have the radio on.
Once I drove 150miles to my mum's, when we arrived he went for a lie down because he was exhausted from being my passenger! If he's driven he also needs a nap because driving makes him tired.
I hate doing long journeys with him.

Do you have the radio on? Maybe that would cut any tension felt from total silence.

We regularly do 3 hour journeys and although some of it is in silence we do talk a lot of the time.

I am a real talker and DH is not far behind me! We can and do have comfortable silences but I could not be with someone who didn't talk a fair bit.

For long journeys my wife and I use podcasts... we can both listen, comment where we want too.

Generally I prefer to drive... it gives me something to do.
If my wife drives, I relax in the other seat... sometimes dose off.

I have no problem with not speaking, generally I prefer not to speak unless I actually have something to say... small talk is just like mind numbing torture.

So podcast... and discuss...

That sounds bliss, I hate journeys with people withering on and on.