Would you call the police? Please help

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my boyfriend is being mentally abusive tonight and I don't know what I should do. Im crying, I can't put up with him bullying me any more. He is nasty and narcissistic and he is ruining my life. Tonight I got dressed up for him coming home, makeup etc. Was dancing around sipping wine and flirting while he called the curry. He "cunt punted" me when i was trying to be flirty. He then commented that the woman on TV was beautiful. I tried to hug him standing up and he grappled me in a wrestling move. I am very very depressed and have been trying to be a new version of me, basically the old me who was elegant and playful and joyful. He made me feel masculine and small. I went to my room, he followed half an hour later, he made me tell him why I left. I didnt want to tell him because he fights with me and gaslights me when i do. He forced me to tell him, I told him im trying to be who I used to be and that he made me feel unwanted and rubbish with the wrestling etc. He then told me I wasn't who I used to be and I dont act like who I want to be. He tore me apart. I'm in bits. He just keeps going. What do I do im ruined and so unhappy. I feel that I'll never be me again.

He has assaulted you in your home where your children are? As PP said this is a police matter

OP - if he’s kicked you with the intention of hurting you (as opposed to play-fighting/wrestling that you find emasculating that somehow went wrong), is nasty to you, verbally or physically, makes you feel shit and so on get rid of him.
If he’s frightened you and it sounds like he is - and if he’s violent - call the police.
You will otherwise be in a cycle of this endlessly

OP I don't know you and your circumstances. I can only say what I would do if this happened to me.

A man kicks me between the legs. I can't even begin to imagine what that feels like but it is not only violent. It is a disgusting thing for a man to do this to the mother of his child. it is he lowest of the low.
Call the police

Call the police tonight if you can. They will help you

Cuntpunt - Kicking a female directly in the crotch with intention to cause considerable pain without visual evidence of an altercation having occurred

So violence against women that doesn't leave evidence. I feel sick.

Christ OP you need to get out of there.

Thank you all, well most, for the replies. I dont have any savings and I dont work as he convinced me that i could take time off to deal with my mental health issues. I don't know where I will stand with keeping my home as I don't have any money or a job and I dont think he will leave easily. I feel lost every time I think of kicking him out. I have no family either and close friends I had to stop talking to as both were male.

Yep contact someone - the police, women's aid, the samaritans - please, get the children out and yourself....or police to get him out. You will be fabulous, and strong and woman again - but take this step by step, he did that to you, then f**king explained what it was called? - Don't bother telling the police by it's name - just tell them he kicked you hard in the groin - etc assaulted you, this is domestic violence.

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Any of this sound familiar? If It doesn't work, please google coercive control, look at the images results, and look for the power and control wheel

Call the police now
Have him arrested
He’s a fucking bastard
How old are the children?

You don't sound as if you want to end the relationship, has he been physical with you before?

Please, sweetheart, call the police. Give it any stupid name you like, but that man assaulted you in a house where your children live. Call the police and get him out, please.

Yes police now

Been there

It's awful

But you need him out

Let this be on his record so he does not get away with it and then have free access to the kids

Poor you

I feel like screaming about this 😡😡😢😢

Not on laptop so can't write much - 999. Get him out for kicking you. As possible said: coercive control, physical violence.

As pp said

I want to end the relationship so badly, im just afraid of what my life will look like afterwards. I have nothing left except my beautiful children. I cant upkeep the life they are used to, we would have to move away from our home and struggle

Call 999 now

OP ask yourself if he will change. Ask yourself if you are afraid of him. Ask yourself if he is fit to be in the same airspace as you and your children.

Please call the police. Do not worry about anything at this stage. It will get better and you will not regret having the threat of him removed from your life.
He will do it again.. and again..and again

Please call the police or womensaid x

@greencoffeecup

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Any of this sound familiar? If It doesn't work, please google coercive control, look at the images results, and look for the power and control wheel

I downloaded this onto my phone to view it. A lot of it rings true, some sections of the wheel aren't relevant to me but I guess about half are. Thank you for helping me with this

Is this the first time something like this has happened?

Beautiful house vs domestic violence? No question which is better for children.

Ring the police now. They'll remove him

Call the police. Get him removed, then you can contact a DV org for help and advice 're housing and money next week. Don't model this kind of relationship for your children OP.

You and the children will be ok. Your kids will flourish when their mum isnt being assaulted and abused. When you are safe, they will feel safe and loved, and being kids, they won't actually care whether they are living in a tent or a mansion.

I promise your children would rather live in a cardboard box with a happy mum than with a vile abuser. It’s better for your children to come from a “broken” home than to live in one.

When I was pregnant he did this a lot. But worse I think, I had very very bad mental health and he would make me feel worse when I was having an episode, then sit across from me just looking, not saying anything or comforting me while I cried so hard I would be shaking and hyperventilating. He comes to me after these moments and acts as if nothing has happened which makes me glad it is over and I feel thankful and go on as normal too. But its not normal is it? I feel so stupid and terrified of what's to come :(