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Original poster

woman not allowed contact with her son - do you agree?

73 replies

nappyaddict · 07/10/2007 20:53

he was never allowed to live with her because social services decided she was mentally unstable. she was allowed visitation with a social worker present. during these visits she tried to feed her 2 month old son cold peas out of a tin, she held a knife to him and threw him in his pram. she got agressive when he cried and force fed him. now she's moaning cos they've stopped all contact. i have started this thread because she doesn't believe that they should have stopped the visits and i want her to see what everyone else thinks.

OP posts:

TotalChaos · 07/10/2007 23:17

OP seems to be backtracking somewhat.

Original poster

nappyaddict · 07/10/2007 23:20

i'm not back tracking. i have already asked for it to be deleted.

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CinderellaShoeShoppe · 07/10/2007 23:21

For sure, it does not paint her ex and his new girlfriend in any good light.

I shall save a copy of this before it is deleted...

Original poster

nappyaddict · 07/10/2007 23:22

i really do not think it is the same person.

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controlfreaky2 · 07/10/2007 23:22

why would you want it deleted na?

Original poster

nappyaddict · 07/10/2007 23:23

because i am not sure i should have posted some details for legal reasons.

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CinderellaShoeShoppe · 07/10/2007 23:23

NA, you have gone into great detail about the things she allegedly has done.

CinderellaShoeShoppe · 07/10/2007 23:24

really?

knock knock

Original poster

nappyaddict · 07/10/2007 23:25

who's there

sorry. i couldn't resist.

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controlfreaky2 · 07/10/2007 23:26

this is too prurient and voyeuristic for me.
this should be deleted. it shouldnt have been started.

Original poster

nappyaddict · 07/10/2007 23:27

well if it is the same person i wouldn't bother saving it cos of how it paints the gf and her ex. they didn't ask me to do this. it was my idea. one i'm beginning to wish i never had.

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Sadatthis · 07/10/2007 23:41

Is it to do with this

Do you know anything about this woman? Or the situation?

A supervisor can't stop a parent doing anything.

Elizabetth · 07/10/2007 23:51

Stop gossiping about her. You are so out of order.

Get your nose out of this woman's life. Why do you think it has anything to do with you?

hunkermunker · 07/10/2007 23:52

Jeez, NA - you think this woman's the same one as Alwaysanon on the thread just linked?

Whose side are you on here?!

ScaryScaryNight · 07/10/2007 23:55

This is getting worse and worse. Are you "gathering evidence/ammunition" against another mumsnetter posting for advise?

Original poster

nappyaddict · 08/10/2007 00:22

no i know the poster of the other thread. she is a good friend. well if its who i think it is.

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madamez · 08/10/2007 00:48

It's not unreasonable to post about stuff that's bothering you and just rant about it to clarify your own thoughts - and indeed to get other people's opinions on something... that's kind of what most internet chat forums are for. And there are plenty of forums where you could get shedloads of messages from morons calling for this woman to be burned at the stake, which you could then print out and show to your mates.
But none of it's going to be admissible in any kind of court case. What a bunch of internet users think about what can only be, to them, a hypothetical situation (OK there seem to be one or two posters on this thread with some actual knowledge of the situation - or they think they know who it is or something) is sod all use to anyone.

You are not AFAICS in a situation where your input is or may be needed to persuade the professionals to act on behalf of a child in danger. From your posts, the child has already been removed from his mother's custody so he's safe. Assuming, of course, that his father, despite the impression being given, ever so slightly, of someone with a degree of prejudice towards his XW, isn;t just a vicious control freak who sees the child as a pawn and has roped you in to his hate campaign. Ever considered that possibility?

hunkermunker · 08/10/2007 00:51

NA, you know two people who have similar age sons who've had them taken away by SS?

Crikey.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 08/10/2007 00:54

This is weird and I've lost the plot about 10 posts in.....

mrsmarvel · 08/10/2007 00:59

I'm sure there are many many more. Women with manic depression go from one extreme to the other and can do all sorts of things to their kids but they are not doing it deliberately. It's really important to remember that they are ill. In my experience, although all cases are different, xp is main carer but visiting arrangements depend on mother's mental health. When she's down she's kept away, when she's up they are together. I think xps are in a position where they become extremely over-protective which is also natural and can get pretty nasty themselves.

Not pleasant. Not my situation, but someone close's by the way before you all point the finger...

Sadatthis · 08/10/2007 01:52

The more I think about this the more I am.

I don't think I understand the OP but am grateful that there are at least a few MNers who are compassionate and supportive enough to realize that it may be a complex situation. Of course no-one should ever be allowed to hurt or endanger a child. Ever. But no child should have to grow up without a mother. Whatever the situation, I hope everyone gets the help they need and that the child has a happy, safe upbringing and knows he is loved.

sheepgirl · 08/10/2007 14:19

Ok I am very confused and have no idea what is going on so i am going to bow out

alittleone2 · 08/10/2007 14:42

Message withdrawn

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