I would love to know why you left your ex, what was it about them.

[madcatladyforever]

With mine he was unfailingly miserable and uncommunicative for 20 years.
He never had to pay the mortgage or the bills and half the time was unemployed yet was miserable nearly all of the time.
Arranged a big birthday party for him - miserable.
A weekend away - miserable.
A holiday - miserable.
I've never known anybody so chronically discontented.
Now he's gone he is now skint, lonely and miserable.
He would only have ever been happy if we'd have been having perverted sex in rubber gear 30 times a day, joining swinging clubs and watching porn 24/7 none of which interests me.
Even then he would still have picked holes in it and said it wasn't enough for him.
God I'm happy he's gone, I can actually spend a day with people who smile and are grateful for a day out.
He asked if he could come back and I thought I'd honestly rather die.
This was just one of his many failings as a husband, there are many more.
You do wonder why you stayed so long!!!

[chatnicknameyousuggested]

He was an abusive drunk, and still is.

[Aozora13]

It started off great as we had lots in common, except he couldn’t handle the fact that I was as good as, or even better than him at some things e.g. the instrument we both played. So he took to undermining me and subtly destroying my confidence.

He didn’t like my friends and family and was mean about them and would discourage me from seeing them.

He talked a big talk about all the great things he was going to do but never did them. As my career started to grow and his never took off I ended up bankrolling him even though he mocked my work.

He openly admitted to being increasingly horrible to me so I would dump him, then immediately got together with someone else (denies overlap but I remain unconvinced).

All the while branded himself as a “nice guy” but it left me a shadow of my former self after 7 years.

My now DH is great though

[CatEatCatWorld]

He was constantly miserable, had checked out of family life, no intimacy at all, would moan if I spent any money, moan if my family came over, his interactions with the kids were always negative. I thought maybe he was depressed, but I broke up with him (but still living together for a while) and quick as anything met a woman on OLD and turned into the total opposite. He'd go places with her, put lovey dovey fb statuses on, go out with her family etc. We were together 18 years and never got engaged, he proposed to her after a year. Makes me wonder whether hes really happy, doing it just to make me jealous, is putting up a front to keep her (she has her own house/good job etc whereas he has no job) or she is at the steering wheel making him do the stuff. I just dont see how someone can change so much in so little time. The kicker was, he never came to my grandad or mams funeral, yet went to her uncles...

And no I'm not bitter as I've met a lovely guy and have never been happier, just regret at wasting so much time on him.

[Suzi888]

Being boring and having no desire to anything, combined with zero sense of humour.
Wanting to have children.

[Crystal87]

Wasn't attracted to him, he was really nasty to me most of the time and he wasn't intelligent. I am by no means highly intelligent but it's something I find attractive and I need stimulating conversation with a partner. I never had this with my ex, he would take everything literally and not understand sarcasm and metaphors. And we just weren't a good fit.