Think he texted the wrong person !!

[Willowmartha1]

The guy I have been seeing casually for a few months just messaged me this "how's Work going honey?". I'm pretty sure this wasn't meant for me as I don't work during the evening ! But I know his recent ex is a barmaid so can't help thinking this was meant for her even though he is adamant it's all over (she finished it) When I said 'ok, why do you want to ask ?!" He laughed it off and said not sure to be Honest just thought I'd ask!

Am I being paranoid that this message wasn't meant for me ?!

Doesn't sound like its for you does it

Agree it wasn't for you. But you say you've been seeing him casually, so presumably you aren't exclusive?

We are yes it's very early days I'm supposed to be seeing him at weekend but not sure I want to now !

You know it wasn’t for you.

I would call him out on it and see what he has to say, but I wouldn’t be bothered about seeing him again either.

It wasn't for you, no.

Nooooo... get rid while it’s still earlie days

Bin. You know it wasn't for you. Don't let it slide- this is how he's started and how he means to go on.

You're not sure you want to see him now?

He still calls his "ex" honey. Block and move on!

Might not be his ex. If you're not exclusive then he's free to message/date other women. I wouldn't bin him off just because of this if I liked him.

Did you think you were exclusive?

If so, and he's clear on that, then why see him again if he's not stuck to being exclusive?

Seems a bit pointless if he wants to date more than one person while you want to only date him...

All seems very embarrassing.

I would have texted back
'If you wanted to know how work was going for 'Honey' you should have text HER number not mine👋🏻'

Initially I answered 'work??' And he immediately came back with 'yes that thing you do all day !' Puzzling !

He is seeing you until he either a) gets her back or b) accepts that she isnt coming back and then seeks his new LTR. You are the rebound, sorry.

For that rather than the text I would dump him, and be grateful that he sent it so you know where you stand.

Does he call you honey?

@Jute6555 yes he does

I ask my husband how works going in the evening ... Are you sure it wasn't for you?

That how I would phrase it as well "how's work going?". I know he's not in work. I mean generally.

I think you might be overthinking a little. If he calls you honey then it could have been for you. Asking how work is is just causal thing to ask to get conversation started.

Finish it, red flag for me. X

God yeh it'd put me off. He will always have a few women on the go.

I’ve asked the same question in the evening when I know they finished work hours ago. I don’t see the problem

Isnt over his ex

I would ask that too in a general way, not meaning 'how is work going this exact minute?'. A bit like how are things going? How are you?

If I was going to ask someone about their work day knowing they had finished, I would have phrased it as, "how was work today" , or "how did work go" . But they way he phrased it was hows working going.. Implying that you were currently at work. So to me it sounds like he texted the wrong person. Unless you were telling about any on going issues you were going through at work.