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Straw poll: do you and DP get up together with kids on weekend mornings?

96 replies

PodPast · 07/10/2007 08:23

We never have, I see it as a sign of a loving relationship, DH sees it as a foolish waste of good sleeping time for one of us (usually him... but that's another story). I'd like to present him with some hard stats please...

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fawkeoff · 07/10/2007 08:25

if ones up then wer'e all up....i must say that dp will sometimes get up with the dc and leave me in bed for half hour

ChasingSquirrels · 07/10/2007 08:26

no no no no. We share, one gets up one day, the other gets up the other day - so we both get a lie in, but not together.
Before ds2, ds1 used to stay at his grandparents once or twice a month so we did get a lie in together. ds2 is now sleeping through and weaned so I am hoping to persuade them to have both of them soon.
Having said that ds1 came in at 7am this morning and I send him back to his bedroom to play so that we could have a cuddle (v unusual that ds2 isn't already awake by then).
We spend the rest of the weekend pretty much together with the kids, and personally I need that one lie in a week.

TrinityRhino · 07/10/2007 08:27

Pahhh haaah aaaa haaa haaa haaa

dh get up with me on the weekend!!!!
yeah right

Tutter · 07/10/2007 08:28

dh got up with ds1 at 6:30

i tried to convince 11 week old ds2 to sleep in with me but he was having none of it - we were also up before 7

nutcracker · 07/10/2007 08:29

Obviously , now there is only me here, I always get up, after a cuddle in bed with the dc's. but when xp was here, I do have to say that 9 times out of 10 it was him who got up and made breakfast whilst i snoozed on.

MrsCellarfullofbones · 07/10/2007 08:30

Pod, we used to be the reverse of your ideas (ie DH thought we should both get up)... however, as time has gone on and we have both become older and even more knackered, I have persuaded him in recent years to take turns... this really only involves one of us getting up to make the DC their drinks then bring a cuppa to bed for spouse -so is a little lie-in - but what a difference half an hour can make!

We still have breakfast en famille.

fawkeoff · 07/10/2007 08:30

may i add that dp is working today so i have been up since he got up because he cant do frig all without banging around which woke ds up

ChasingSquirrels · 07/10/2007 08:30

and here a lie in is a proper lie in. I didn't get up until 10am yesterday, I am assuming dh will be similar today. I start getting pissed off if he isn't up by 11am.

popsycal · 07/10/2007 08:35

I normally get up while dh lies in. Doesn't bother me most of the time as I am more of a morning person but I do insist from time to time that I stay in bed. Yesterday was one such case when I stayed in til 8:30. That is a HUGE lie in in our house

ChippyMinton · 07/10/2007 08:36

I used to resent getting up every day but now i use the time to come on here or do some craft bits & bobs whilst the DC eat breakfast and play.

What does pee me off if that, if he is taking the DC out, he doesn't get up and get them ready. He expects to sort himself out and come down and they will be fed, dressed and packed ready to go. He's learning...

seeker · 07/10/2007 08:36

I'm an early riser and dp isn't so I've usually been to one to get up. But I'm wierd and I'm often up becore the children are! I sometimes go back to bed with a book later on, but I don't really like lie ins. Early nights, now, that's another matter!

Tutter · 07/10/2007 08:37

popsycal 7:30 would be a lie-in here

until recently ds1 was averaging a 5:45 wake-up

i'm going back to bed with ds2 shortly as i was up with him at 2am (dummy replacement) and 3am (feed)

CastsSpellsWitchySpells · 07/10/2007 08:38

I get up early with dd every day, because she still has a bf first thing. DH isn't here in the week, but at the weekends he gets up once I've fed her too.

Tickle · 07/10/2007 08:39

i feel cheated if i don't get one lie in at the weekend, but not later that 9am, otherwise i feel too guilty.

we have 4 dcs under 9, so it's pretty full on if you volunteer to go solo with the kids in our house! luckily dh isn't one for a lie-in, but prefers to sneak back up for a siesta after lunch.

seeker · 07/10/2007 08:39

When dd was little, she and dp used sometimes to get up together and sneak out to go and have breakfast in a greasy spoon and then go swimming. I used to love lying in bed and listen to them creeping around, dd talking in loud penetrating whispers about not waking mumy up!

CastsSpellsWitchySpells · 07/10/2007 08:41

Awwww - that's really sweet seeker!

TheBlonde · 07/10/2007 08:44

I get up, DH remains in bed

HelloMama · 07/10/2007 08:46

we take it in turns to have to get up with DS so one of us always get a lie-in. However, the days I do lie in, i come downstairs to a massive mess so spend the first half an hour or so tidying up, usually while DH is alseep on the sofa. This morning it was my turn to get up, and I come downstairs to... you guessed it, a massive mess, all the washing up from last night (i cooked) a huge pile of clothes washing, etc etc. I am also 9 months pg so have started the day knackered and could have the baby anytime. i think i woke up on the wrong side of the bed today.

charliecat · 07/10/2007 08:47

I am now single, but when still with xp, no he would lay in bed till 1-2 in the afternoon and whinge if I went out, at the end of the relationship it was maybe 10.30-11.00 this was him making an effort. But we had still been up for 3-4 hours before him and he wanted us all to jump when he got out of bed..Fark Awf.

BreeVanDerCampLGJ · 07/10/2007 08:50

DS is 6 and has recently mastered the art of turning on the TV for himself and more importantly making himself some bread and jam.
We usually try and grab 30 minutes or so, sometimes together. DS and I normally go to church on Sunday for 9.15 so I never really get a rest on a Sunday.

If one or the other of us is particularly tired then we arrange with the other to make sure we hop out of bed the minute DS surfaces, because the 30 minutes is generally peppered with MuuuuuuuuuuM where is the "insert whatever item is blindingly obvious"

BreeVanDerCampLGJ · 07/10/2007 08:51

HelloMama

Time to put your drill sargeant voice on. Start kicking ass.

unknownrebelbang · 07/10/2007 08:53

Oh the bliss of having older children.

We no longer have the "it's your turn, no it's your turn" argument.

That's when DH was there, often we had no choice as DH works a lot of weekend shifts anyway.

collision · 07/10/2007 08:56

we take it in turns too and it is DHs turn today!!

He brought me tea and I am waiting for coffee now!

Dss are watching TV and he is making breakfast too.

I did it yesterday and it makes sense to take turns and DH is still in a good mood about the rugby which we discussed again this morning! I pretended to be interested!!

HelloMama · 07/10/2007 08:57

I can't whinge too much as sometimes DH is very good, popping out to get pain au chocolate and the tabloids for when i wake up. i think i'm just in a bad mood today. at least sharing the lie-ins you don't feel guilty when it is your turn.

Carmenere · 07/10/2007 08:58

Usually it is me but dp often works at the weekends too so it is not a problem (I also go away for work a lot too so he is on duty full time). Tbh if he gets a lie in I kind of consider it a bonus towards him not dieing of a heart attack because he works so hard
But OMG he is away atm and I would've killed for a lie in this morning, very unusually I was up with dd 3 times last night and am now knackered. BUT I now have to drive to heathrow to collect him. I only passed my driving test a couple of months ago so wish me luck because I'll need it

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