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Straw poll: do you and DP get up together with kids on weekend mornings?

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PodPast · 07/10/2007 08:23

We never have, I see it as a sign of a loving relationship, DH sees it as a foolish waste of good sleeping time for one of us (usually him... but that's another story). I'd like to present him with some hard stats please...

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DarthVader · 07/10/2007 08:58

dp lies in

hertsnessex · 07/10/2007 08:58

yep, we do. unless ive been working late/all night, we all get up together.

ScaryScaryNight · 07/10/2007 09:01

DH often works till around 4am, so he gets the lie in. Unless I am going on a night out the day before and we have prearranged that I get a lie in.

It is not a problem, DS2 will often sleep till 7.30, and DS1 till around 9 on the weekend. So I get to sleep longer than usual, and that makes me happy. I cant stay in bed till after 8 anyway. Makes my back, hips and pelvis sore.

WideWebWitch · 07/10/2007 09:01

We either take it in turns to get up/lie in or sometimes we do a deal with ds as we have this weekend and he takes dd downstairs so dh and I both get a lie in. I've only just got up, dh is still in bed.

eandh · 07/10/2007 09:03

we used to take turns when it was just dd1 inevitably I am up between 5 and 6 with dd2 these days (and take her downstairs so not to wake dh and dd1) but dd1 is normally awake by 6.30 and she refuses to allow her daddy to stay in bed so we are normally all up by 6.45 the latest (unless dh been out on fri/sat night then he wont emerge for hours!!)

We are lucky that my parents have always had them every 5-6 weeks for the whole weekend and then we do get our lay in

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PodPast · 07/10/2007 09:06

hmmm. it seems we are somewhere in the middle. he does get up with them once at the weekend but we never get up together. and to be realistic if we were all up we'd just slouch about until it was time to go out so not exactly quality time.

I'll just tuck that bitterness back down inside for a few more months then - thanks girls...

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PeachesMcScream · 07/10/2007 09:09

We've taken it in turns ever since I stopped BF. These days DS (6) usually gets up himself at about 7, one of us follows at about 7.30 and the other stays in bed till 9.

And there's the rare morning like today where DS has just got up at 9am!!! And it was my turn to get up. So I got an illicit lie in and woke up naturally earlier. Bliss.

SixInTheBed · 07/10/2007 09:14

after many years of squabbling and seething (me) over this we worked out our own version of the geneva convention ( sleep deprivation being a form of torture after all) we take turns and whoevers turn it is to get up normally brings brekkie up to the other. that means once kids are fed we get a chance to have a cup of tea and a chat together in bed before kids remember where we are.Dh now also always loads the dishwasher as well when he gets up as he used to leave an awful mess.definitely worth working out a rota .

Tamdin · 07/10/2007 09:23

yes. every now and then dh takes ds out and i stay in bed for an hour but 99% of time we all get up together

BabiesEverywhere · 07/10/2007 09:32

I get up every morning, DH stays in bed.

But as DD (13 months old) always needs her milk feed first thing, I have to be up...unless DH could start breastfeeding for me

...and as a SAHM I think it is part of my bag to do the early starts and let DH have a lie in at the weekend.

Though the odd morning I feed DD and hand her over to be cared for...like when Harry Potter 7 came out and my birthday etc.

Amethyst8 · 07/10/2007 09:43

No. Is me every morning. But DH does work till 11.00 pm most nights, I am still breast feeding DD and I must admit I like it.

IdrisTheDragon · 07/10/2007 09:45

At weekends we will try and both have a lie in one day and get up the other day. It depends what else is happening but that is our aim.

mankyscotslass · 07/10/2007 15:33

Dh and I take a day each at the weekend for a lie in...although that is only til 8.30! But it is a long lie as the kids are usually up at 6 ish. If we have something on that we need to be up and out for, we both get up.

MillieMummy · 07/10/2007 15:36

We take it in turns here - it's essential ! I

DumbledoresGirl · 07/10/2007 15:36

We used to take it in turns, usually dh Saturday and me on Sunday. But now that our children are old enough to look after themselces, I see no point in getting up early. Dh always gets up before me though, but I don't feel guilty about always getting the lie-in nowadays as the way I see it, he is getting up through choice not necessity.

hamabeads · 07/10/2007 15:50

You are joking aren't you. I get up every morning and DH has a lie in...

SpookyBearistheSpookyBear · 07/10/2007 15:52

We take it in turns, but have to be up by 9.30. I could easily sleep till noon or later tbh.

ScaryMonsterStories · 07/10/2007 15:55

No. Never had.

One of us does Sat and the other does Sunday

MyTwopenceworth · 07/10/2007 15:59

Nope. Whoever owns the head the kids choose to leap on generally gets up and tempts them downstairs with promises of nutella on toast and crap tv, while the one without the skull fracture sleeps in for a bit.

If dh has been out and is nursing a hangover I might, might take pity on him and protect him from the kids for a bit.

But equally, I might keep sending them upstairs to yell in his ear. [evil] Depends what mood I'm in.

But regardless, it's only (normally) a difference of an hour or so before the banging and yelling and muffled screams make it too difficult to sleep anymore and whoever got the lie in goes downstairs to see if there's blood.

prettybird · 07/10/2007 16:02

Ds from a very early age has learnt to occupy himself while dh and I both have a lie-in

He comes into bed with us for a wee cuddle at about 7.45 and then goes off and switches on the TV and/or goes back to his room to play. He'll get himself a couple fo wee fromage frais, and when I get up to get us all orange juice and make tea for dh and me, I'll pour him a wee jug of milk so that he can get himself a bowl of cereal (he's not confident enough to use the big carton of milk)

tryingfortwo · 07/10/2007 16:12

who ever needs the sleep more..... and in an unwritten rule whoever gets the long lie is eternally grateful to other for rest of day so gets nice things like cups of tea made or dd taken out to give them couple of hours peace and quiet or to watch football etc etc.

LoRayningNewtsAndFrogs · 07/10/2007 16:13

DP moans all week that he doesnt want to get up for work, but I get up and make the breakfast/cup of tea etc (only bout an hour before I'd normally need to get up as am a SAHM) but at the weekends once he is awake, he is up. He'll leave me in bed and deal with the kids though they rarely get breakfast before I get up.
I dont really hear them before he gets up though (DD is nearly 7 and DS nearly 3, so he goes into her room and they watch kids tv in bed til either myself or DP go downstairs).
By the time it gets to about tenish he gets bored and wakes me up, but generally is really good about me getting the lie-in as I get up for him other days. Also am pregnant so that probably has a lot to do with it, as far as I remember he hasnt always got up with them, we used to take turns.

Pages · 07/10/2007 16:15

Take it in turns. He has Saturday, I have Sunday. Neither of us later than 9.30.

It did take a while to establish, had a phase of him taking the p@@@, especially over Xmas last year when I seemed to be getting up every day, he always had a reason why (he was "ill" for a week )

Scootergrrrl · 07/10/2007 16:17

I do all the getting up in the night - he does all the mornings, ever since he said after a particularly sleepless night for everyone except him (partial deafness is a GREAT thing if you're a bloke) that he didn't see what all the fuss was about sleep and I should really stop focusing on it so much [hmmm]

Gobbledispook · 07/10/2007 16:19

Sometimes.

Sometimes I get up and give him an extra half hour - hour in bed and vice versa.

Boys have Spanish at 9.30 on Sat and football at 10am on Sunday so it's not as if either of us can just slob out in pjs really.

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