Size 12 but bf finds me unattractive

[Hellokitty198]

He won’t touch me sexually. He says he loves who I am and I have a nice face but the excess fat and untoned area on my stomach puts him off having sex with me. I was a size 10 when we met.

Yet I can’t walk down the street without (very much unwanted) male attention. I don’t want to brag but I’ve been told how beautiful I am by both men and women. I’m not so horrendous for my boyfriend not to want to have sex with me. I look after myself but the past six months it’s been hard to be as active as I was before.

He’s broken up with women before for physical attributes so I know it’s not personal and the issue is with him. It still hurts though. Not sure why I am posting - for support I suppose.

I say bf - I’ve dumped him. So he’s an ex now. Even if when I tone up again, I’m sure he’ll find something else to fixate on instead. And lord knows how he’d react after having babies.

All his friends thought he was punching with me.

Because he was!!!

Urgh he is vile and just sad.

Op go to the gym or don't go to the gym but don't let this fuckwit give you a self esteem hangover x

He might have an avoidant attachment style. To avoid getting too close to someone (which scares them) they find something to put themselves off and devalue the partner.

If I knew it was just the weight thing, fair enough, but he’s dumped women for having too many wrinkles around their eyes

The delusion is real 😂...I'm sure him, pornhub, and his pile of crispy Andrex will be very happy together.

So 30 year old virgin, former land whale, massive sexual disfunction and a limp cock and you give a shit what his opinion of you is because????

He’s so shallow you are well rid

That said I worked with someone who was desperate to go out with one of the lads who was good looking and knew it, very kern on appearances which were important, Insisted she had to slim a bit first, which she did and to be fair it lasted, they got married

Saw them recently, she’s still slim and pretty 25 years later, he’s fat and bald!

He sounds like a massive dick to be honest!
I say this as a man, when i met my wife she was a size 10, we have had a child now, she is a size 12 now, and i honestly can say, hand of heart, i find her more attractive now than i did when she was a size 10, not saying i didnt fancy her, you get what i mean

clearly you weren't well suited op. i am sure you look great.
but... to those saying he is a knob... i don't agree. he is perfectly entitled to have preferences on her physical stature and if that changed during the relationship it's fair for that to have an impact. it doesn't mean yo'u're unattractive op, but the ex partner is perfectly entitled to have preferences, just as i'm sure you all do.

@Hellokitty198

If I were seriously overweight, I might understand but I’m someone who used to go to the gym 4 times a week so I’m not that out of shape. Just piled on some weight which will go when I start up again.

All his friends thought he was punching with me.

If I knew it was just the weight thing, fair enough, but he’s dumped women for having too many wrinkles around their eyes

Lol. Charming. Is he quiet the specimen then or are these standards only applicable to his partners? What the hell is he going to do when he ages???

Such a good thing you've left him. He'd probably be horrible post babies.

@strawberrymilkshakemonkey

If it's about his choice to have a partner with certain physical attributes why didn't he just end the relationship and walk away?

She went up one dress size and he was critical about it. To her and about her. Quite personally as well. That's not acceptable and you shouldn't think it is.

He is a knob.

He sounds horrible! Well done for ending things, you deserve so much better!

It sounds like he was trying to put you down to make himself feel better, probably about his own insecurities. What a horrible person!