Got stood up today

[anotherdisaster]

I thought I had experiences all the weirdness men had to offer but today I actually got stood up for the first time. Not looking for advice, just to vent I suppose. Met online, he wasn't even really my type but he seemed genuinely nice. We arranged to meet up fairly quickly (on Friday) for this afternoon. He was sending messages every day but not OTT.
Even got one this morning "Happy Date Day". Then he asks to change the time out of the blue with no explanation. I saw it was a little bit awkward so he offered an alternative. Just after I had left, he messaged to say he was running late as still had his daughter with him. But, no indication of how long. I replied saying not to worry I would just walk the dog round the park.
I waited half and hour then left. Not heard from him since.
I'm at a loss to explain this behaviour. I've blocked him now as I don't want to be sat waiting to hear from him with his excuse (which I probably wouldn't anyway).
Even though I know I've dodged a bullet, still made me feel crap.

I guess its just a matter of keep trying. Im not expecting to meet the one on the 1st go, but a few conversations and dates would be nice

I had some cancel two dates. First excuse was he had to work on the weekend. I work in the same industry and it's unheard of for anyone in his department to have to oversee a project go live. Anyway, in case I got it wrong I agreed to reschedule. The next excuse is fantastic. His back got hurt by someone tipping off it on the street with a paper shopping bag, aggravating an old injury! I never heard from him again.

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@Thesheerrelief aww how kind, I have PMd you.

I think only waiting 15 minutes is a bit strict (but I live somewhere that traffic can delay me by 20 mins at least, and I don't text when driving).
I would leave after 30 mins tho.

@Rigamorph yeah I gave him 30 minutes because he had said he was running late although i should have known he wasn't coming when he gave no indication of how long and got no message to say he was on his way!

I haven't been stood up on a first date but once I was seeing a guy for about 2 months, met about 4-5x had really fun time then he came up with unlikely excuses for 3 dates in a row.....it was 3 strikes and he was out for me.
Why he bothered to re-arrange so many times and then back out is still a puzzle but he wasn't that great a catch that I am disappointed

@Rigamorph god what an arse, especially after a few dates in. It will be the old case of keeping you hanging on while he dated others too. Men don't like to cancel altogether incase they need to come back to you at a later date. I've had guys cancel with an excuse of 'being unwell' with a promise to reschedule then nothing. Why not just say "sorry to cancel but I've changed my mind/met someone/not looking to date anymore" or similar. Then you can close the door.

Back when I was dating a bit I’ve had women no show, cancel at the last minute, ghost, repeatedly cancel and re-arrange. It’s definitely not just men.

I mean, it’s quite possible they didn’t like the look of me or something. I’ve had dates who I’ve realised on sight aren’t my type but still enjoyed a drink and chat.

People can be weird.

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I remember a date I had, unfortunately he turned up. First thing he said was 'I can't call you charlotte'....hmmm that's my name though
Apparently his ex was called Charlotte and she had cheated on him. He spent the whole date slagging her off. When I called him out on it he got angry. He apparently had a drug problem.
Uh I can pick em.

I've had one man not contact me to confirm the time on the day we were supposed to meet despite wanting to meet for 3 weeks (I had been busy). I'm pretty sure it's because he was with someone as he would offer to come over and see me in the day.

Another man who I'd been chatting cancel a few hours before because of his work. We were only meeting for a drink and it was local so could easily have tried to postpone it for a few hours later.

I had a date with someone who I had been chatting to for a few weeks and I suggested late afternoon when he asked what time was good for me. He said how about 5 (the morning of the date) and I replied that yes. He didn't answer that message so I was hesitant about going. But we had been speaking a lot so thought I would risk it and he did turn up. It's hard when you don't know them and their style and you don't want to come across as needy.

Hope the other date when well @anotherdisaster