Bro trip...

[a00031]

Hey ladies! How do you feel about your BF or DH going on an all guy trip?

Why do you ask?

@Finfintytint

Why do you ask?

Just want to know others opinions in case it ever comes up in my relationship

What sort of trip are you thinking about

So it’s an issue that has never presented itself?

@Anordinarymum

What sort of trip are you thinking about

Like a "I'm going on a all guy trip to..." anywhere really

@Finfintytint

So it’s an issue that has never presented itself?

I mean I guess he's mentioned how cool it would be to go on a guy trip with his cousin and friend before

What like a fishing trip?

I guess I just want to know how you ladies would go about your significant other telling you he wants to go on an all guy trip.

If he wants to go fishing or golfing that's fine

I wouldn't stop my dp going on a trip with his friends no

It would be fine by me. Good for each other to pursue different interests. We’ve been married 30 years and neither of us would curtail the other’s pursuits. We are adults and trust each other.

@Anordinarymum

If he wants to go fishing or golfing that's fine

Lol no like...packing a bag to get on a plane and have a guys trip

My friends husband went on a stag do to Spain. They went on segways in the day and got drunk at night. Seemed like an expensive way to get drunk imho

OP, does the other person get to have a break with friends too? Is the person having the break generally sharing their household/ parental responsibility?

If we could afford it yes I don’t see the problem? I’d love a girls trip abroad and I’d love my DH to go away with his friends

If my husband told me he was going on a ‘bro trip’ all I would feel is the ick. I’m not sure I would stop cringing long enough to say anything.

Really though it doesn’t matter how anyone else feels only the people in the relationship. Also I assume how one partner would feel about the other going on holiday would depend on a number of things. Off the top of my head: who was going, where, to do what, previous relationship issues, finances, children, pets, other caring responsibilities etc. For example would Jane want Peter to go on holiday with a group of single men and men who cheat on their partners when he’s already cheated once and they’re going to a place notorious for parties and hookups. Would Mary want Dave to go on holiday leaving her with six kids, two dogs and his mum who needs care. Would Alan want Viv to go on a wine tour with her friends when she has alcohol issues. Would Craig want Anna to go on holiday with her sister when they have barely any money to heat and eat.

It’s too subjective when it’s not a real situation.

It still depends on what you mean by a guys trip.

My boyfriend (50s) goes on holiday with his friends and I dont have a problem with that. I see photos of art galleries, historical buildings and places of interest. They go to bars in the evening and sleep in late in the morning. No problem with that.

If they were all behaving like single men in their 20s, I'd break up with him.

So what do you mean by a guys holiday?

Depends what sort of trip, doesn't it?

Less keen = drinking, drugging and cruising the red light district
Fine = sports, larping and general silliness etc

Not that I'd pick a bloke into the former anyway, so it wouldn't come up.

I'm from the states, my husband has a cousin that's like a brother to him across the country in California ( we live in ny)
Now, the last time we went to visit him we went together. We're planning on going together again in febuary. But what if one year he wants to go on a bro's trip there without me? This is just me thinking ahead of course. I just don't know how I'd feel. I completely trust my husband but his cousin is single and a huuuuuge partier...sooo it's not like it would be a...going fishing kind of trip.

I would trust my partner unless I had reason not to!

I wouldn't mind at all
My dh went to rome with some friends last year and I had a separate trip with my parents. As long as you trust him then I don't see the problem

In that case, no, no problem whatsoever.

You don't stop being a person just because you're in a relationship. You still have your own friends and interests to pursue.

Why are you not happy with it?

I would love this. Sick of sharing a bed every single night!

Well, in nearly 30 years of marriage I have been away with my friends skiing, and a few weekend city breaks and dh has been away on sailing trips and various sporting fixtures. So, it’s not a problem as we both get time out.

My husband regularly does. I don't mind at all, dd and I enjoy or girls weekends together when he goes away.