I’ve been in a relationship for a year and wondering where it’s going. I’m mid 30s and he’s mid 40s. We’ve both been clear we are after a meaningful relationship with the end goal of marriage. Lately I have been talking about wanting to try to have a baby before I reach 40 at the latest. This hasn’t made him run away! But he does say he wants to pay off his mortgage before starting a family (despite being very well off). We haven’t talked specifically about what’s going on between us and what our plans would be. And in any case I am starting to habour some serious doubts about him and the relationship.
My question is - when should you know? Is a year long enough to know? Or am I wasting my precious time considering I have doubts? I feel like I don’t have much time left to decide...