Suggesting I eat food off the floor

[CelestialMosaics]

My partner threw some food during a tantrum a couple of days ago (it's still there as I've had enough of picking up after him). He's just suggested that I should eat it. I'm not sure if it was meant to be a joke. I'm exhausted and feel like giving in and cleaning it up but I don't feel like I should then sometimes I think it's all my fault and I should prevent this stuff from happening. He's off work today and I can't stand him being here, tomorrow can't come soon enough.

Stop thinking about him and his needs. He managed just fine before you came along and he'll manage just fine afterwards. Get out asap, no warning, no chat about it, just go and send a text from a safe place 'I'm gone, it's over, don't contact me' then change your number or block him.

My partner threw some food during a tantrum a couple of days ago (it's still there as I've had enough of picking up after him). He's just suggested that I should eat it

Dear fuck, lass, get out. Are you a dog? This wasn't a joke.

He's punched, kicked and thrown things before. You're in line at some point in the future. I can't believe he told you to eat food off the floor.

The violence is never at me although it's usually my fault somehow for going on or 'acting scared' and he will prevent me from leaving the room or follow me. I think he knows that hitting me is the line and he says he would never hurt me

It's the line now. Give it a bit longer and it won't be any more. You're not a human punchbag yet, but you will be.

Do get help now. This is not normal and you are right to be scared. You don't have to live your life like this, there is a much better one awaiting you.

Do you have family? Can you talk to them and can they help?
Please dont stay in that situation, you deserve better

You need to leave.

Talk to an org like women's aid. They might be able to help with what to do about the tenancy.

Throwing food on the floor is very juvenile. Suggesting you eat it, I dont know, maybe just an unfunny joke but I dont understand the leap to calling this man abusive with only this info to go on.

Just read about the violence now so I get it, but I mean in regards to people calling him abusive even before the drip feed came in

He is sensitive about he lives he can stay where he lives now. As everyone has said this is abuse. As suggested get your documents in order and find somewhere to move to. Don’t tell him you are planning to leave. Most abusers get worse when they lose control over their victims. When you are ready to move out either do it when he is at work or get some male relatives or friends, not his friends, to accompany you and help with packing/moving.

@TheresGotToBeMoreToLife

The "leap" is pretty obvious when you have seen/read enough about abusive relationships.

TheresGotToBeMoreToLife
Really? Throwing food on the floor and leaving it for days? Then suggesting she eat it?

OP That’s no joke, it’s a push to see what you will tolerate. Things will only get worse, and much worse if you clean up. Get the hell out, whatever it costs.

Then feel grateful he’s shown you what an absolute arse he is.

@TheresGotToBeMoreToLife Please tell me you've been drinking before you posted

OP leave. He won't be of any threat to you. It's only when you are both there in your flat that he wields his physical power over you.