Why do men send photos?

[GirlWhoIsLearning]

I do know they expect you to reciprocate and I don’t mean inappropriate photos as such. I’m not a bore and I’m 22, so familiar with the photo culture. But I find it really odd that even when you communicate with a man for work, he feels compelled to first make a video call (but, fine, in business it’s important to put a face to a name), and then send you a selfie. I get the bit where he thinks I’ll reciprocate, but this is a third guy randomly doing this in two months. What is it? Narcissism? He likes to look at himself? I’d rather shoot myself than send anyone a selfie...

Probably hoping to get one back.
Probably also hoping it takes a cherly turn.

*cheeky

Sure, but how do people even think of that? I know I sound ridiculous, but I never understood photos like that...

Yeah I don't get it. But I cant say I ever really experience it. Either pics or cheeky pics. Usually just chat really. I would probably find it weird if a guy was like 'here's a pic of me'. Like, ok but...I know what you look like xD lol

You’re so right :)

My ex and current partner do this all the time and I still don't know why. At least 3 (not naughty) selfies a day.
Okay? Thanks for your face???

I've never had anyone who I communicate with for work send me their selfies.

That's a fair point actually- why is a random from work sending you a selfie? Lol

Think he is into you maybe?
Otherwise probably narcissism as you say.

@KurriKawari

I've never had anyone who I communicate with for work send me their selfies.

Me either! And I work in a very (often annoyingly) chatty industry.

I would reply with "Think you sent me a selfie by accident, thought I'd mention so you know the person it was meant for won't have got it!"

Just had to check myself writing that as I instinctively typed "ooh sorry don't think that was meant for me!" and realised how ridiculous it is that my instinct was to apologise for something I didn't do. Ugh.

‘Hi! Thanks but just to let you know that I hate the sight of the human face. Hope you’re having a good day, regards’

Go on I dare you 🤣🤣

Blokes from work are sending you dick pics?? You really need to report this to Hr

No I think the work guy just sent her a selfie pp lol.

Exactly, just a face, no d*cks for now, but judging from the previous instances, that’s coming...

That made me laugh, so thanks for that! Fully agree :)

I do think he is now... but didn’t think so until this happened.

@GirlWhoIsLearning

I do think he is now... but didn’t think so until this happened.

Is into me, I mean.

@namechange900079

My ex and current partner do this all the time and I still don't know why. At least 3 (not naughty) selfies a day. Okay? Thanks for your face???

😂 Lol! Exactly. I think it's because they love looking at their own face and they think you'll appreciate the often non flattering pics of it too.

Please, please send them a message back saying 'Umm...are you aware you've sent me a selfie? Bit confused as to why you have'. I'd love to know the response.

Yeh I'd be asking why he was sending me a selfie too. And if you arent into him I'd maybe be looking to shut these text convos down.

A video chat in a work context is normal and, if it’s Sales or Cust Service related, it’s a good idea to personalise things. But a selfie afterwards? Yeah, that’s a bit weird.

Is this guy in the same company as you or a supplier contact?

@Bunnymumy

Yeh I'd be asking why he was sending me a selfie too. And if you arent into him I'd maybe be looking to shut these text convos down.

Yes, I’ll do that. You’re right.

I'd avoid this type of man. This kind of behaviour screams 'narc' and all sorts of red flags.

@SimoneAlone

I'd avoid this type of man. This kind of behaviour screams 'narc' and all sorts of red flags.

I know and I fully agree! But just to reiterate: we have nothing going on, I’m not into him as I’ve never even seen him in real life (only two video calls). That’s what makes it weird as it’s all wholly professional/impersonal. There’s no customer service involved, we’re just connected on LinkedIn and discussed a potential collaboration which my boss hasn’t even approved yet, so there’s no indication it will happen.

@GirlWhoIsLearning Phew! Glad to hear. I only commented because I know from experience.

No, I totally get that. And it’s useful to see it as a red flag in advance.