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When did you/your partner say 'I love you'?

52 replies

missbunnyrabbit · 24/08/2020 23:27

Just wondered how soon into your relationship/going out with someone that one of you said the magic three words.

Feel like my experience with this is very skewed, two guys who've said it to me both said it after about two weeks of going out with me nearly every day.

How about you?

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Fidgety31 · 24/08/2020 23:27

Not once in four years.

princepaws · 24/08/2020 23:30

I'd also like to know this! Been together for three months and neither of us have said it... I havnt felt it either!

Mintychoc1 · 24/08/2020 23:32

I felt it after 3 months, said it after 6.

OhTheRoses · 24/08/2020 23:35

2nd date. TBF we have barely been apart since and married now for nearly 30 years. But I knew and he knew the night we met.

Every night when he turns his light off he gives me a hug and says It, and every morning when he wakes up. Of course I respond.

monty09 · 24/08/2020 23:38

We told each other after about 4 months... been together for 5 months, but we've known each other 20years and it just feels right.

DramaAlpaca · 24/08/2020 23:38

Quite soon, can't remember exactly when. But we both knew very quickly that we were going to be together, on our first date actually. Married 30 years now.

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missbunnyrabbit · 24/08/2020 23:54

Same, princepaws. Been almost three months for me but I am definitely feeling it. I so badly want to say it but he said that he takes forever to say it, he thinks saying I love you means that you want to marry that person.🙄

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LockdownLump · 25/08/2020 00:01

Felt it after 3 months. I just said one night when we were having a laugh - 'ah do you know what?' and he just said 'i know, me too'.

So we didn't actually say the words, but we knew what we meant.

Outdoorsie · 25/08/2020 07:02

Together 4 years. I said to to him after 18 months. He's never said it to me. I've never said it since.

Summeriscancelled · 25/08/2020 07:05

It was around 4 months. I had felt it for a few weeks and was going to tell him but then he told me first.

NotaCoolMum · 25/08/2020 07:42

Two Weeks= love bombing. MASSIVE red flag 🚩 🚩🚩🚩🚩

MyGodImSoYoung · 25/08/2020 07:46

He told me after a month, and I felt the same. I think when you know, you know.

Happyspud · 25/08/2020 07:49

2 years! He was 34 and had never said it to any previous gf so had it in his head as a very big deal. I'd have said it after 1 month but stubbornly waited for him to say it.

HowFastIsTooFast · 25/08/2020 08:03

About a month, both ways. He later admitted he'd actually said it a few days earlier but in his native language so I didn't realise HmmGrin

MadamShazam · 25/08/2020 08:09

OH said it first, after about a month. I felt the same, and that was 9 years ago 😊

meow1989 · 25/08/2020 08:12

After about a week, but we were teenagers at the time. I think my response was "ah... I think I love you"

14 years on he still tells me several times a day.

wishfuldreamer · 25/08/2020 08:13

About four months in. My ex barely ever said it in over a decade and it slowly broke my heart. If I said it to him, he’d say ‘thanks’. Ffs...

wannabebump · 25/08/2020 08:13

I felt it after about 3/4 months, and we said it a few months later. We still say it. I couldn't imagine not saying it when we're married etc!

VaggieMight · 25/08/2020 08:18

If it's not felt or said within 6 months I think it's time to move on unless you're looking for something not serious.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 25/08/2020 08:25

First boyfriend said it on the first day we started going out. Said it to me repeatedly every day for the next two and a half years and it lost all meaning.

DH said, “You’re so weird but that’s why I love you.” after about a month after we’d discussed not saying it until we actually meant it. I didn’t realise it wasn’t a tongue in cheek comment until he said a bit later and then I said it back to him. We say it daily but not excessively and it feels completely different to how it was said with first boyfriend. Been with DH for 7.5 years now.

Happyspud · 25/08/2020 08:39

@VaggieMight, 2 years to say it in our case but you'd have to know my DHs personality to accept waiting that long. He's a great husband, dad and partner for life thankfully. But I think in general what you say is right.

Daisydoesnt · 25/08/2020 08:48

Two Weeks= love bombing. MASSIVE red flag

Not necessarily! I said it after two weeks to my DH, and he said it straight back to me. We’ve just celebrated our 20 wedding anniversary. He was definitely not a love bomber and neither was I. We’d just fallen in love with each other!

Yesterdayforgotten · 25/08/2020 08:49

After about 6 months

Aria2015 · 25/08/2020 08:51

9 months in. Felt like ages at the time and I think we'd both felt it sooner but we're hesitant to say. I said it first in the end - it was super daunting because it had really build up by that point!

Cheeseycheeseycheesecheese · 25/08/2020 08:56

I told dh I thought I was falling in love with him about 3 months in. He said same.
I said it properly after about 5 or 6 months, he would respond "wub woo" and it became our "I love you" 10 years down the line we do say I love you properly, but we still randomly text wub to eachother to this day