mental abuse and narcissism

[Christmashappy]

hi
I have been in a relationship with a man who I thought was wonderful, I started a relationship with him straight after my marriage and he was great.
I didn't notice it as I was already but he started to really chip away at me.
I asked him to live with me 3 years ago and he went mad, he never did move in but we lived together between 2 houses.
He doesn't stay here now i only stay at his.
He has utterly destroyed me, he is a narcissist i posted here before under a different username and he is definitely narcasstic.
On top of that he was sexting for years.
I still feel stuck to this guy , my mental health has really suffered and I can't see a way of getting out of this and spending time on my own.
I have 2 kids with my ex.

[Christmashappy]

@fluffynotebook
Thanks. Are you okay?

I can't believe people can be so soulless.
It has been an eye opener for me. X

[fluffynotebook]

I'm getting there thank you.
Dreading it when kids start back to school next week as we have kids at same school! But you've just got to hold your head high and keep saying to yourself that you haven't done anything wrong it's all on them. And go and live your life the best you can, you owe that to yourself.
It's crazy to think that there are people like that isn't it.
Look after yourself X

[tickertyboo]

Christmashappy - what would you like to happen now?

[Christmashappy]

@tickertyboo
Sounds silly but i just want to be happy.
That can't be with him. The only place I get support is here as no one else quite gets it.
Wish i could feel like myself again. X

[Christmashappy]

@fluffynotebook
You take care of yourself too and don't let her get to you.
I honestly don't know how people who behave that way can function.
Its horrible xx

[tickertyboo]

Christmashappy - wanting to be happy is not silly and you've acknowledged that happiness can't be with him.

Are you still going to do your nursing course? x

[Christmashappy]

@tickertyboo
I just want to feel normal, it has been rough.

Yeah it starts in 2 weeks , need to sort myself out before then xx

[fluffynotebook]

Thank you. :)

[fluffynotebook]

If you ever need someone to chat to please feel free to PM me x

[Christmashappy]

@fluffynotebook
Thank you, I will definitely be in touch. Xxx

[mayormaynot]

www.melanietoniaevans.com

[Christmashappy]

@mayormaynot
Thanks. I will read this.
I have totally underestimated the effect this had on my life x

[mayormaynot]

Look at my link, Melanie is amazing at helping in your situation. She has lots of free advice on utube/Facebook etc

[mayormaynot]

[quote Christmashappy]@mayormaynot
Thanks. I will read this.
I have totally underestimated the effect this had on my life x[/quote]
I've been there. Please look at this lady's work. So unbelievably understanding of where you are and how to help yourself.!

[Christmashappy]

@mayormaynot
Are you okay now?
Thanks so much. Xx

[mayormaynot]

Yes...and much, much wiser. For me it has taken a lot of therapy and study. I am constantly learning and making sure my children are never in the same positions. I'm breaking historical damage and behaviours. It is totally possible to recover.

[Christmashappy]

@mayormaynot
I appreciate your honesty.
I feel so frustrated sometimes, like I know how bad he is and I shouldn't be with him and a huge part of me wishes he had never affected my life like this.
I am glad you are recovering. I will definitely read this link .

[tickertyboo]

Christmashappy - I'm glad to hear that you're still going to do your nurse training.

It's a good opportunity to make new friends and gain a different perspective on life; but this will only come if you're receptive to it. Let him go.

Good luck. xx

[Christmashappy]

@tickertyboo
Thanks. I am looking forward to starting.
I will, i need to.
Thanks for the advice xx