Hi all, I'm new to MN and this is my first post. I'm after some advice because my mind is all over the place at the moment, and I'm not sure what to do.
We've been together for 20 years and have a 3-year old son. We have a good (well I thought we did) relationship, and do love her to bits. Over a month ago, as I was getting into bed I saw her messaging her 'first love', as she later called it. She deleted the message and said that - It's best that she did as I would have got the wrong end of the stick because there's noting going on. Later, she admitted they were talking about the sex they use to have.
I told her out right that I was not happy and, she said that she will delete him of FB which she did. A few days later, I get a friend suggestion on FB, and guess who it is - her 'first love'. I ask her if she friended him again, to which she said yes, 'and I'll talk to who I want', she said. I just couldn't believe why she was doing this. She unfriends him again. So, by now I'm beginning to not trust her and what she is telling me.
She has the password access to my phone and I have to hers. she changes her password. One evening her phone does not lock in time as she leaves the room and I look through it (I know, wrong of me). She has been talking to the mother of the bloke telling her how she thinks about him all the time, wanting to spend a day out with him and if the mother can arrange this.
That was the final straw for me. I confront her and asked why she did this, and why does she want to meet him, she said, 'to see what happens'. I can't trust her anymore. I not sure what to do. Do I just ride it out and see what happens? Sorry for the long post.