Just been told to pick what cardboard box I choose to live in .

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Just that because I’m questioning him about relationship with other women .
In tears
Sorry need something to talk to.

Well that sounds grim. Sorry OP. Who is this charmer? Dp/ DH?

I remember those kind of conversations.

When is he leaving? Are there kids involved?

I thought we was going to be ok , been together nearly 28 years .
Have been feeling suicidel last few days .
Can’t believe he said that to me .
Never felt so low.

What a prick. Well he definately sounds defensive.

What brought all this on

@CandyLeBonBon

I remember those kind of conversations.

When is he leaving? Are there kids involved?

Kids are grow up .

@NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1

What a prick. Well he definately sounds defensive.

What brought all this on

I threatened to text the women.

What women

Married or partners?

Are you married? Do you own your home? What’s your situation?

Oh OP, I'm so sorry you're going through this. I've no practical advice but couldn't read and run.

Please reach out to family or friends if you can and you're feeling low. This scum bag isn't worth it, don't let him destroy you even further.

I hope you get sorted.

@Longdistance

Are you married? Do you own your home? What’s your situation?

We are married I have already filed for divorce , I’m really depressed right now because of this He was Texting an ex colleague who he had a close relationship with. The house is ours Jointly .

If the house is jointly yours then you won't be living in a cardboard box will you. I think he's probaly going to say a lot of nasty hurtful things before the divorce is finalised. Is there any way you could live separately whilst negotiating your financial settlement?

Do you have anyone in real life you can reach out to OP? Your children?
You deserve better than this, be strong x

If your divorce is happening, although it's way easier said than done, attempt to not engage. And especially don't initiate anything. Don't bother with the relationship postmortem. Save your energy for practical matters. Avoid him as much as you can.

@NotAWickedStepmum

Do you have anyone in real life you can reach out to OP? Your children? You deserve better than this, be strong x

My daughter knows he is a cunt (her words not mine) I’m just scared of the future . I’m so depressed feeling suicidal , no one to turn to apart from kids . Don’t want to put it all on them .

Honestly they want to help you! Please reach out to your kids. Lean on them. They love you like you love them. I promise.

I’m so sorry, that’s a truly awful thing for him to say after 28 yrs. He is obviously feeling threatened and thinks he can intimidate him. Try and get angry instead of upset and channel the anger into making sure you stand up for yourself and get a good financial settlement.

It will get easier but may take time. I’m 4 years after a long marriage split and finally starting to feel good about myself. The first two years were tough and I never had a full nights sleep during that time. But just keep taking one day at a time and one day you will realise that you are no longer having to just get through but are actually starting to enjoy life.

Good luck

Kids, if adults, want to help in these situations. Believe me. I've been there with my M-I-L and her divorce.

Whatever else you might feel and do, just get a good solicitir to reprersent your intrestes.

An no way will you be living in a cardboard box despite what this hero spouts!!

Sorry you are feeling so awful. It’s not surprising though, going through a divorce must be terrible. It’s got an end though, eventually you will be divorced and all the horribleness will be behind you. You will get there.

One step at a time.

If you haven’t friends or family to confide in then make do with online forums! People will be sympathetic and I’m sure plenty of others will have been through the same thing.
In the meant time look after yourself, eat, exercise, sleep (if you can) don’t drink too much. If you feel bad then don’t hesitate to speak to your doctor and if you feel really bad (suicidal or whatever) then go to A and E

If possible disengage with him. Its over so there is no point arguing with him.

Good luck.

He can't just order you to leave. Start sleeping in a spare room if you have one. Ring a solicitor tomorrow for an initial conversation - the 'half hour free' thing gets overstated on here, but there are ones who will quickly give you some general guidance as a starter without payment. Read the chumplady.com site - lots of stories of women turning their lives around after being cheated on.

OP he can’t make you homeless. Get a good lawyer, preferablyonethat’s been recommended. Let your close friends andfamily know whst’s happening and they may be able tohelp you feel better.

This is a bad time, but you’ll get through it and be glad you’ve got him off your back?

If you are depressed/suicidal then book an emergency conversation with your GP hun. Or if you feel it's an emergency, go to A&E.

Well done for filing for divorce from this cunt. xxx

Your solicitor should advise you that you won't end up in a cardboard box.
As easy as it is for me to say from here, don't engage with him.
Use your anger to get all of the evidence to help you and get it to your solicitor.

Your anger should be directed at him and not yourself. Suicide is not an option.

Talk here instead of your kids, if needs be?