Just been told to pick what cardboard box I choose to live in .

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Just that because I’m questioning him about relationship with other women .
In tears
Sorry need something to talk to.

I'd be asking him which colour bin liners he wanted his belongings packing in.

Please OP call the Samaritans for a chat.

www.samaritans.org/

You will prove to him that you are a brilliant and strong person by living your life and being happy without him. You have your children and you will have a lovely life without this toerag in it.

These feelings will change and pass. Do not give him the satisfaction of seeing you low. Please get some help, go to your GP in the morning and get some anti depressants and ask for counselling. You may have to wait a short while but you will feel better.

He does not deserve you. XXXX

@Nat6999

I'd be asking him which colour bin liners he wanted his belongings packing in.

Well said!

You talk about women rather than a woman - how many has he been shagging? He sounds dreadful.

If you are filing for divorce it might be best to avoid conversation and keep apart as far as possible while you are still in the same house. The house if half yours so whatever he says, you won't be homeless.

Op I’m so sorry you are going through this. I remember being in shock at first and extremely upset for days. After a couple of weeks I then got a solicitor yo start the divorce process. You have been able to take action straight away, please know how important you are to your children and that the way you are feeling right now will pass. Please get the support pp have mentioned, especially from your children. If you are up to it visit the site chumplady.com - I found this was the best place to begin to understand what had been done to me. Please trust that none of this was your fault, but instead the result of choices made by someone else, who is no longer your friend.

Your daughter knows he's a cunt. She'd rather support you than see you dead. He's talking shit to scare you. Get support where you can and ignore as best you can. Hard but not impossible. Go to your gp. Talk. Get support.

Hello, sorry to read that you are feeling so bad right now. Your husband is cruel,nasty minded and vindictive to speak to you like he has done, but best to try and ignore his horrible words and actions if you can, as dwelling on them,will only make you feel much worse.

I am wondering why you would wish to contact any woman /women involved with your Husband. It would maybe just add to all the anger and upset that you are going through now.

If you have filed for a divorce, you are going to be upset, but busy sorting all this out now, so need to stay strong, and maybe get some support from your children or family if possible.

Despite how you feel now, if your Husband has a tendency to be nasty minded, and a cheat, then you will eventually be free of all this, although it doesn't feel like this right now.

You were married for 28 years and UK law protects you. You won't be left with nothing. Mine tried that too - 'the house is more mine than your because my mum's inheritance paid for it'. I told him it was a good thing UK law didn't work that way.

Do lean on your kids and on anyone you have in RL. Do call Samaritans - your STBXH is emotionally abusing you. And stand firm - once you're shot of him, the sun will shine on you again.

That sounds like the behaviour of a selfish man who finally isn’t getting his own way.

There will be a lot more nastiness before this is over OP. I found planning cheered me up. Looking at houses I could afford, colour schemes, holidays I could go on with dc. How life would be when I was free.

It’s tough but you need to let it wash over you. His views are irrelevant. xx

Don't worry. Just get a solicitor and get your fair share.

Oh yes and don't react to his goading. He wants you to react, so detach and don't. Let whatever he says wash over you. Don't give him the satisfaction of defending yourself or justifying yourself.
You already know he's a dick. It doesn't matter what he pretends he thinks about you.